Guys Are Great, But My BFF Will Always Be My Greatest Love

Romantic love isn’t the only valid form of love and it’s certainly not the one I value most. My BFF is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, no matter what. That’s true love for you.

  1. My romantic relationships never last that long so I don’t expect to find one that will last forever. I find it hard to get completely attached to guys because so far none have stuck around. OK, so I’m not bitter and twisted enough to think I’ll never find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, but what’s certain is that I’ve already got one person in my life who’s going to be there ’til death do us part—my BFF! Whatever happens in my love life, she’s here to stay. Our love is real.
  2. Platonic relationships are just as meaningful and fulfilling as romantic ones. Most of us maintain more platonic relationships than we do romantic ones. Who’s to say which are more important? I get more emotional support, good advice, and pure enjoyment out of my friendships than I do out of most relationships I end up having. But even when I find the perfect guy to settle down with, my BFF and I will still have all this history behind us, as well as our always growing, always evolving friendship. No one can beat that. Ever.
  3. She’s always been the one person I could count on no matter what. The most important thing in any relationship is to be there for each other. The one person in my life I could always trust to be there for me is this girl. She’s never once let me down that I can remember. Can I say that about guys I’ve dated? No. But even if I find a really good guy I can wholeheartedly trust, it won’t make my BFF any less reliable or our friendship any less real.
  4. We know everything about each other. Emotional intimacy, baby! You know the stuff they say you need to work at in relationships? Well, for us it’s just there effortlessly because it’s so much easier to share this sort of connection with a friend and it never feels like work. Sometimes it almost feels like we’re the same person.
  5. I can be my weirdest self with her. No need to pretend, no need to slowly come out of my shell and worry about what she might think—I already know! So much of our lives is spent in awkward situations while we try to build a connection with strangers. There’s much to be said for spending time with someone who’s squarely in your tribe.
  6. She’s a major, irreplaceable part of my life. I’ve spent more time with my BFF than I have with all ex BFs combined. I can’t imagine my life without her. I can imagine life without a guy because it’s happening right now, but if anything ever happened to my BFF? I wouldn’t know what to do with myself.
  7. Guys really aren’t everything. Sometimes I feel like society is geared towards making me feel like half a person if I’m not in a relationship, but having a perfect friendship means I never feel lonely. I don’t spend my nights alone at home or out trying to get a date. I hang out with my BFF often and my life feels whole enough. Sure, it’ll be great to have a guy again, but it’s not my entire reason for being.
  8. She’s basically like a limb to me. We’ve never been apart for too long and we understand each other completely. The longer we spend together, the less we even need to talk. We can communicate just by looking at each other sometimes. I’ve honestly never had a relationship like that with a guy.
  9. She’s as good as family. Sisterhood is a real thing. My BFF and I aren’t related but we may as well be. Some connections are stronger than blood. They say you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends. And my friends have become my family. My BFF and I are as close as any two sisters would be—maybe even more because we chose each other.
  10. My feelings for her never change. We’ve had our ups and downs like any BFFs do, but nothing will ever tear us apart. We’ve survived each other’s relationships, periods when we were living in different cities (and countries) and a whole lot of other drama. The one thing that didn’t change is the love we feel for each other. Compared to all my unstable romantic relationships, this friendship deserves the lifetime achievement award. I have no reason to believe anything will ever be different between us—not after everything we’ve been through together.
  11. WE’VE KNOWN EACH OTHER SINCE FOREVER. Sometimes the only way to tell whether a friendship can survive the test of time is to live it through. When you’ve known someone for that long and have survived all the changes each of you has gone through, you know that your friendship can survive anything. People change and drift apart, but not us. Some friendships are built to last. When I look back on all the years we’ve spent together since we were kids, I know for certain our future is going to be just as bright. In many ways, my BFF is the true love of my life.
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