Guys Are Like Buses—Don’t Chase One You Missed, Another Will Come Along

One of the most profound things I’ve heard about dating recently is that guys are exactly like buses. It sounds dumb and maybe even nonsensical, but hear me out—it’s actually pretty mind-blowing.

  1. Resist the urge to chase. If you miss a bus, you wouldn’t exactly go and chase it. Well, you can, but you’re kind of fighting a losing battle because buses generally travel faster than humans. In reality, you’d probably just sit tight and wait for the next one to come along. So, using that logic, why chase after a guy who’s not worth it? Instead, wait for the right one to come along who’s going to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. He’ll get there eventually.
  2. If you do chase him, you’re only going to scare him awayThere’s likely to be a perfectly valid reason for why he’s not getting in touch. Whether it’s because he’s got a lot going on at work, his Grandma is sick, or he’s met someone else, only time will reveal what the real reason is. If you try and approach a guy before he’s ready and chase him down, then the risk is that he may well decide to run in the opposite direction.
  3. Maintain your dignity. It’s tempting, but don’t bombard him with confrontational messages on social media asking him what on earth is going on after you’ve had such a good time together. It’s humiliating, tiring, and downright bad for your self-esteem. That’s not worth surrendering for anyone or anything. Your best bet is to leave him be, and if he wants to come crawling back, he will.
  4. What’s meant to happen will happen. In the famous words of Shakespeare, “What will be, will be.” If you’re not meant to end up with this guy, then nothing will probably ever materialize. If this is the case, then at least you’ll know where you stand. After all, if a guy truly wants to be with you, he’ll always run towards you not away from you. You have to make your peace with the fact that he’s not interested if you’re going to let yourself move on. If he was, you guys would still be dating.
  5. Let go and start living. Get on with your life as you usually would and don’t be hanging on waiting for him to come back to you. You’re wasting valuable time, effort, and energy that you could be using to get to know someone else—someone who is worthy of your attention, that is.
  6. It’s his loss. If he never gets back to you, that just says everything about his character. What kind of person would do that to someone else that they supposedly care about? Exactly. You don’t want to be with someone like that anyway, right? Cut your losses and move on. It won’t be long before a new guy comes onto the scene and makes you forget everything about the old one.
  7. Embrace all opportunities. To help you get over him, say yes and embrace every romantic opportunity that comes your way. When you put yourself out there and enter the dating scene with an open heart and an open mind, wonderful things can happen. You just have to be brave enough to jump off that proverbial ledge.
  8. It’ll only be a matter of time before you find someone else you like. There are nearly eight billion people in the world, so you’re bound to find someone else who you like romantically. After all, there are all types of relationships in the world. Even if you don’t find Mr. Right, you can certainly find Mr. Right Now.
  9. You might even find more than one person you like. Just like buses, you can wait for the right guy for what seems like forever and then more than one comes along at once. Oh, sweet irony. This type of situation is great, but you also need to watch out for it. It’s the universe testing you by throwing a lot of stuff at you all at once to see how you cope. Some will succeed in the juggling act and others will fail miserably.
  10. Once you’ve found Mr. Right, it’ll be worth the wait. When you find that awesome guy you want to spend all your time with, you’ll just know it. He’ll be different from all the guys that you usually meet and won’t believe in casual dating without commitment, nor string you along for months. He won’t treat you as an afterthought, and when you’re in your little love bubble making everyone else sick, you’ll be glad that didn’t chase after that other guy. Why? Sometimes the best romances are worth waiting for.
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at