We’re Not The Crazy Ones — Guys Play Mind Games All The Time

Pretty much every girl has been accused of being a complete psycho at one time or another. Of course, we’re not the only ones who like to play mind games. Men send us mixed signals and blur the lines to confuse us all the time. They’re just as crazy as we are, if not worse.

  1. He won’t respond to a conversation he started. Why would he message you saying “heyyy” with three Ys if he wasn’t going to respond after you messaged him back? Maybe he sent the same text to several girls and only respond to the one he liked the best. Maybe he was just testing you to see how quickly you’d respond. Maybe something actually came up that he had to take care of. You’ll never know.
  2. He asks you to “hang out.” This term should be banished. When a man uses it, it’s impossible to tell if he wants to hang out as friends, or if he’s actually asking you on a date. The phrase could mean pretty much anything, so how are you supposed to know what to expect?
  3. He ignores you when his friends are around. He acts like your best friend when you’re in class together, but when you see him at a party, he completely ignores you. It’ll make you wonder if you’re really his friend, or just someone he talks to when he has no one else around.
  4. He doesn’t call after a date. It’s easy to tell if a man had a good time during a date. If he was clearly enjoying himself, then why wouldn’t he call you to set up a second date later on in the week? It’ll make you wonder if he’s waiting for you to make the first move or if he just lost interest.
  5. He flirts with others in front of you. He might be flirting with other girls in front of you to make you jealous. He might be doing it to let you know that he doesn’t want to be with you. He might be doing it just to mess with your mind. It’s impossible to tell.
  6. He drops out of your life. One week, he’s texting you constantly, asking you to hang out. The next week, he drops off the face of the planet. It doesn’t matter how many times you call him, because he’s not going to answer. Of course, a few weeks after that, he’ll return and treat you like a princess again.
  7. He sends one-word texts. You could be having the flirtiest conversation of your life, but as soon as he answers you with a one-word message, all of the fun is over. If he wanted to continue talking, he would’ve written more, wouldn’t he? Or was he just having trouble thinking of something clever to say?
  8. He gives backhanded compliments. If a guy tells you that you “look pretty when you actually dress up,” what are you supposed to think? Even though he’s complimenting your current appearance, he’s insulting your usual appearance. There’s no way to tell if that means he likes you or if he’s just trying to be mean.
  9. He sends an “I miss you” text. You know that your last relationship ended for a good reason, but whenever you’re about to move on from your ex, he texts you about how much he misses you. He doesn’t want to get back together. He just wants to remind you that he exists to mess with your mind.
  10. He won’t call you his girlfriend. If you’ve been sleeping together every weekend, but then he introduces you as his friend at parties, what are you supposed to think? Is he just using you as a booty call? Is he too embarrassed to call you his girlfriend? Is he trying to take things slow?
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.