Guys Think You’re Hot And They Hit On You — So Why Are You Single?

You might think that since you get so much male attention, you should be in a relationship by now. And yet, you’re not, even though you’re also smart, strong, independent and an all-around catch. What gives?

  1. Guys assume you’ve got a boyfriend. Some guys hit on you but then back away, thinking there’s no way you don’t already have a boyfriend. Even if you make it clear that you’re single, they might battle to believe it because you seem too good to be true.
  2. Guys see you as out of their league. Sometimes guys chat to you and show they’re interested but they ultimately see you as being out of their league. It’s hard for them to date someone who’s so much more of a catch if they’ve got insecurities. Honestly, you don’t need their issues in your life.
  3. Most of the guys who hit on you are jerks. Often, the types of guys who come to speak to you when you’re out are total jerks. They see a pretty woman and try their luck or try to impress you with the most ridiculous pickup lines. Ugh. It’s enough to put you off. The problem with this is that you might be shutting out decent guys before they even speak to you because you expect them to be like all the other jerks.
  4. You’re seen as a celebrity. Guys want you, but you’re like a celebrity to them. They have you on a pedestal but they’re also intimidated by you or afraid of rejection. They might see you and think, “She’s perfect… maybe too perfect.” They don’t know how to handle you.
  5. It’s hard to know if guys are really sincere. You’re a catch and hot AF, which makes you a target for guys who don’t have sincere intentions with you. They might just want a trophy girlfriend to boost their ego, for instance. It’s hard to know if someone’s really into you for you or just because you make them look better when you’re on their arm.
  6. You don’t need a manYou’re independent, have a fabulous life and know your worth. You don’t need a man and that sometimes comes across as being too strong. Yes, some guys think too much strength in a woman is a bad thing. That pretty much means they could never handle you anyway.
  7. You seem high maintenance. Guys might call you high maintenance, even though it’s probably the furthest thing from the truth. It’s just that they see your gorgeous face, swishy hair, perfect manicure and think, “I don’t think I can afford her.” Please! They should know that you don’t need a man to pay your way.
  8. You’re waiting for “it” to happen. You’re used to getting male attention and perhaps it’s made you too passive in dating. It might even make you come across as not being interested because you’re aloof at parties and ignoring guys who look your way. That great love isn’t going to happen on its own! Try taking a bit more of a proactive approach and see what happens.
  9. You don’t want a hookup. You’re after something real, not a hookup, but frustratingly, those one-night-stands are really easy to find. It sucks that guys try to score with you all the time instead of giving your personality a chance to battle it out with your looks. When you’re gorgeous and a catch, it’s even harder to find something real because you’re seen as sex on legs. Hello, there’s a whole personality over here!
  10. You have high standards. You might be called too picky or fussy, but honestly, you have every right to be. Why should you lower your standards? That’s like dumbing down to get a man. The right guy will rise up to meet your standards. Yes, he’s out there.
  11. You’ve got options. Not to toot your horn or anything, but you’ve got more dating options at your disposal because you’re such a catch. It might make your female friends lack sympathy for you, thinking you’ve got it all. But just because you’ve got lots of men fawning all over you, it doesn’t mean they’re the right kinds of men or boyfriend potential. You’re not desperate. That’s why you’re single.
  12. You’re the life of the party. You’re not just gorgeous — you have an amazing personality. When you’re at a party, you’re there to have fun with your best girls, not wait for a guy to ask you out, which means that maybe you’re not really noticing all your admirers because you’re too busy shaking your booty on the dance floor.
  13. Some guys are playing a numbers game. Some guys who approach you are thrown by your gorgeous looks and they’re just after one thing: making you theirs. It’s like you’re an object. It’s all about having as many hot women in their beds as they can achieve — and preferably at the same time. Use your good looks as a way to weed out the losers and players. If they’re not interested in more than how you look, adios, amigo!
  14. You’ve got more going for you. When people ask you the annoying question, “How’s it possible that you’re still single?” you might want to throw something at them. Just because you’re a wonderful, beautiful person, it doesn’t mean these qualities are somehow wasted because you don’t have a man in your life. Those qualities are being put to better use, actually.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.