Guys Want To Date You — You’re Just Not Paying Attention

Guys Want To Date You — You’re Just Not Paying Attention ©iStock/elenaleonova

You’re not single because you’re ugly or because you’re a bitch. In fact, there’s a good chance you wouldn’t be single at all if you realized how many men were interested in you. Have you considered the possibility that guys want to date you but you’re just not paying close enough attention?

  1. You don’t think highly of yourself. If you realized what a goddess you were, then you’d notice all of the looks you’ve been getting. But since you’re so self-conscious, you’re assuming that no one would look your way. You’re seeing what you want to see.
  2. You don’t know what counts as flirting. The man who smiled at you on the bus was just being friendly, right? Wrong. He would’ve given you his number if you would’ve flirted back.
  3. Love isn’t your first priority. You’ve probably met great guys without thinking twice about whether or not they were flirting with you. Your mind was on other things.
  4. You’re closing yourself off to the world. You don’t have to find love on Tinder. If you kept your head up and headphones off of your ears, the strangers admiring you from afar would actually walk up to you. You just have to look more approachable.
  5. You don’t want to be cocky. You don’t want to assume a man is crazy about you. That’s just plain conceited.
  6. He’s not making a move. He’s intimidated by you, he’s too shy to talk to you, he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship with you. There are countless reasons why he wouldn’t make a move, even though it’s all he wants to do. If you opened up your eyes, you’d realized how he felt.
  7. You’re zoned in on the wrong guy. If you have your heart set on dating a certain guy, you’ll be blinded. You won’t notice all of the other men who are clearly interested in you, because you only want one thing. You’re too distracted to see the truth.
  8. He isn’t making it clear enough. Sometimes, the man is completely at fault. If he’s been sending mixed signals and doesn’t seem interested in committing, you’re bound to think that he’s playing you. But sometimes, men just don’t know how to express their feelings.
  9. You assume all men want from you is sex. You know men want to bone you. In fact, you assume that’s all they want to do. But there are some men out there who want more than that, which is why you shouldn’t make assumptions.
  10. You’re too involved. When you see two strangers talking, it’s easy to tell if they’re just friends or flirting. But when you’re the one talking to a man, it’s much harder to figure out if things are platonic or not. Your involvement clouds your judgement.
  11. You don’t try. How are you ever going to find out if a guy likes you if you don’t put in the effort to talk to him? Don’t say, “If he wanted to talk to me, he’d start the conversation,” because he could be saying the same thing about you. Make a move or you’ll never know who wants to date you.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.