12 Things Every Happy, Healthy Relationship Needs To Thrive

The perfect person doesn’t exist, but that doesn’t mean that the perfect relationship doesn’t. When two people fall in love, there’s often this misconception that it will just last without any effort because the love is there. But that just isn’t true. There’s a recipe for making that relationship go the distance:

  1. Understanding When it comes to the perfect relationship, a dash of understanding is needed from and for both partners. If your partner doesn’t understand you, then you aren’t going to make it very far together. When you just “get” each other, being able to understand why they act a certain way is a whole lot simpler, making any conflict in the relationship easier to handle.
  2. Compassion A pinch of compassion will come in handy when those tough times come, and they WILL come. Being able to have empathy towards what your partner is going through, whether it be an illness or a rough time financially, will get the perfect relationship through any storm.
  3. Love This is a no-brainer and possibly one of the biggest pieces of the relationship pie. Both partners have to truly love each other to the extent that even their flaws are endearing. Your partner could annoy you to the ends of the earth, but you don’t REALLY mind because you love them for exactly who they are.
  4. Respect The foundation of the perfect relationship is mutual respect. This is what gets you through the times when you don’t actually like each other all that much, but can still respect each other enough to know that the love is there and you wouldn’t want it any other way.
  5. Trust and loyalty Both loyalty and trust go hand-in-hand when it comes to relationships. If you can’t trust or be trusted, you’re not ready to cook up a solid relationship yet. People who love fully and honestly will have no problem trusting and proving their loyalty to their partner.
  6. Discipline The perfect relationship won’t just happen on its own. It takes a willingness to work from both partners involved. When things start to go stale, you and your partner might have to put in a bit more effort to revive the relationship, but if you really want things to turn out perfectly, it’ll be worth it.
  7. Fun The icing on the relationship cake is the ability to have a great time together no matter what you’re doing. Whether you’re grocery shopping or doing laundry on a Friday night, it’s still an adventure when you’re doing it together. That’s how you know that your relationship may just be perfect.
  8. Time apart The perfect relationship needs time to set, so to speak, and that’s where time apart comes in. The ability to lead your own lives while still building a life together is one of the most important ingredients when it comes to creating something truly magical.
  9. Communication A heaping pile of communication is a must when it comes to the perfect relationship. Being able to be open and honest with your partner at all times about what’s going on inside your head is one of the deciding factors when it comes to whether or not your relationship is going to be a culinary masterpiece or a burnt disaster.
  10. Acceptance For the perfect relationship, accepting your partner as they are without wanting to change anything about them is the key. If you can manage to accept all their flaws, quirks, and annoying idiosyncrasies, then your relationship will be the best one you’ve ever had.
  11. Compromise A cup of compromise is much needed to form the relationship into something incredible. Being able to give as much as you take in a relationship is the only way to turn it from good to great, and that starts with the ability to compromise with your partner on both big and small issues.
  12. Affection Perhaps one of the easiest, yet most frequently forgotten ingredients when it comes to the perfect relationship is affection. It should come naturally, but it’s often put aside to make room for other things instead. Be careful, because if it doesn’t become second nature, the relationship won’t turn out the way you’d planned.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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