How To Be Happy With Your Own Life When Everyone Around You Is Getting Married

When you reach a certain age, all of your friends will start to get hitched without warning. If there’s not a wedding ring on their finger, then there’s a baby in their stomach. It happens in the blink of an eye, so you might not see it coming. Once it happens, you’ll start to wonder if you’re doing something wrong in your own life. However, you shouldn’t let that thought keep you up at night, because it’s entirely possible to be happy with your life when everyone around you is getting married.

  1. Focus on your career. You don’t have to choose between having a love life and a career, but if you aren’t getting anywhere with men, you might as well advance at your job. Even though you won’t have a boyfriend to brag about, you’ll have money to brag about. Besides, if you get a promotion, you can have a celebratory party as big as your friends’ bachelorette parties.
  2. Remember that there are different types of love. Don’t make the mistake of assuming you’re unloved and unwanted, just because you haven’t found the man you’re meant to marry. You have friends, family members, and pets who care about you as much as a husband ever could. Romantic love isn’t the only type of love, you know.
  3. Enjoy some alone time. Once you’re married, you’ll be sharing your house, your bathroom, and your bed with another person. Even if you’re a social butterfly, alone time is important. That’s why you should pamper yourself with a bubble bath, cry while watching Lifetime movies, and eat dinner over the sink without being judged.
  4. Go clubbing. You might be jealous of your friends’ marriages, but they’re jealous of your single life. You get to go out to drink and dance as much as you’d like without anyone waiting up for you. Try to see your life the way they see it.
  5. Find your future husband. If you want to get married like the rest of your friends, then your first step is finding a groom. That’ll never happen unless you break out of your comfort zone and start asking more men on dates. You can even try speed dating or join a dating site. Do whatever you can to enhance your love life.
  6. Stay off of social media. If your jealousy is getting the best of you, stop logging onto Facebook and Instagram. You don’t need to torture yourself by looking at pictures of your friends with their pregnant bellies and gorgeous fiances.
  7. Change your life in a major way. If you’re jealous of the fact that your friends are starting a new era of their lives, you can do something to change your own life. Move to a new city, start a business, or adopt a baby. Do whatever you can to feel fulfilled.
  8. Do what your married friends can’t. Your married friends can’t go on an impromptu road trip without consulting their partner. They can’t spend the night at a party without getting questioned about why they didn’t come home. Enjoy being spontaneous, because most married couples get stuck in a routine.
  9. Enjoy the parties and free booze. Your friends aren’t the only ones benefitting from marriage. You’re the one who gets to go to bridal parties, bachelorette parties, and weddings without worrying about the planning. Relax and just enjoy yourself. You might even find Mr. Right while you’re mingling.
  10. Find single friends. Your friend’s hubby won’t steal her away from you, but after she’s married with children, her priorities will change. That means that you should go on a search for single friends. When your old friends are busy attending ballet recitals, you can grab your single friends and go out for drinks. They’ll never have to worry about finding a babysitter, so they should be free every weekend.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.