It’s Hard To Believe That Your Guy Is Out There But Here’s Why He Is

Being single AF and being optimistic about dating can often feel mutually exclusive. You keep putting yourself out there, only to be disappointed time and time again. It’s impossible to feel good about going on bad date after bad date, but there’s no reason to throw in the towel or stop believing in love. Here’s why your guy is absolutely still out there:

  1. You just need one guy. It can be easy to stare at the sea of faces on a dating app and not think that you will never, ever find anyone. After all, there are just So. Many. People. It’s seriously overwhelming. But guess what? You just need one guy. That’s it. That literally means that your next first date could be when you finally meet someone that you’re into. Remember that.
  2. You’ve put in your time. You can’t expect to get a job without sending out applications, and you can’t expect to find love without putting in a similar kind of effort. But you’ve done that. So your guy is definitely waiting. You just have to keep going.
  3. You don’t need permission to be happy and hopeful. It doesn’t matter how upset your family is about your solo status or how annoying they get around the holidays. You don’t have to lose hope in love just because you’ve been without the romantic kind for a while now. You can be totally happy and have tons of hope, and you really should. There’s no reason to be miserable just because you’re single.
  4. You’re not a loser. In fact, you’re the total opposite. You’re an amazing, strong, independent, and intelligent woman. You have goals, you have a sense of humor, you have it all. So why wouldn’t you find love? There’s literally no reason why you won’t.
  5. You know that it takes time. Some people find love early on in their lives, and others (like you) take a bit longer. There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just your reality. If you can take a deep breath and remember that love always takes time, you won’t need to get so upset.
  6. You want and deserve a love story. You not only want to fall in love, but you want a certain kind of love. The kind of love that takes you by surprise, changes your life when you weren’t even expecting it, and makes you a better person. You want a love story, and that means that you’re going to get one.
  7. You have the right experience. You’ve had relationships. You’ve had almost relationships. You’ve gone on tons of first dates, you’ve gotten your hopes up and gotten those hopes promptly dashed, and you’ve moved on. You have the right kind of experience to find your person now. Don’t discount that just because you wish it had happened sooner.
  8. You can save yourself time. It’s funny to think how totally naive and innocent you were back in the day. You let guys lead you on because you just didn’t know any better. Now you do. You don’t let that happen anymore, and you save yourself tons of time. That means that with each guy you slam the door on, you’re one step closer to the one who you want to keep around.
  9. You’re not giving up. Here’s the thing: you lose your best shot at finding love if you stop trying and decide that you’re just going to be alone the rest of your life. Nothing good happens from giving up. Don’t do that to yourself.
  10. You can find love at any age. It can be easy to think that just because you’re not married to your high school boyfriend or you didn’t meet someone amazing in college, you’re never going to be as happy as your coupled-up friends. Why would you think that love has any sort of timeframe? Think about your formerly single AF coworker who is now in love at 31 years old. You can find love at any age. It’s just up to you to believe it.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor. She shares gluten-free, dairy-free recipes and personal stories on her food blog, She loves coffee, barre classes and pop culture.