I Have An Incredible Life But I Feel Like I May Never Find Anyone To Share It With

The longer I stay single, the more I wonder if I’ll ever find the right partner. Maybe I’m not supposed to have a lifelong relationship. Maybe that’s not in the cards for me. Perhaps instead I’m supposed to find fulfillment and satisfaction all on my own.

  1. I’ve been single a while and I don’t see that changing. I know that anything can happen. On the other hand, unless my situation and lifestyle drastically change or some magical guy falls out of the sky, I don’t see how. I stopped looking for someone to sweep me off my feet a long time ago. It’s not a productive way to live.
  2. I’m used to the perks of being on my own. I’ve been single for a couple years but I’ve lived alone for eight. I’m pretty used to getting to do whatever I want. I like things a certain way and it’s hard to step away from that now. I’m not great at compromise, so maybe I’m not supposed to be with anyone.
  3. It wouldn’t be the worst thing. There are a lot of positive elements of being single. There are some negatives too, but that’s life. There are negatives to being in a relationship as well. The longer that I roll solo, the more I realize maybe the good stuff is worth a few drawbacks.
  4. I enjoy the flexibility of single life. I’m not gonna lie, it’s great. I literally have nothing tying me down. I could move across the world tomorrow if I really wanted. I don’t have to worry about a partner’s needs, wants, or responsibilities. All I have to consider is what I want and need. That’s rad.
  5. I don’t feel the need to follow a traditional path. I can’t say that I’ve ever wanted a wedding, a family, or one steady career. That sounds kind of boring, TBH. I’m perfectly okay living my life in a way that doesn’t match the norm, and that includes my relationship status. I’ve never been traditional – why start now?
  6. Nothing about being single = failure. That way of thinking is dying. A lot of people stay single for a long time now, even forever, because we aren’t willing to settle. It’s not about finding stability and starting a family immediately anymore. It’s about building a truly happy and lasting relationship. If I don’t find the right guy, I won’t live a mediocre life with the wrong one.
  7. I don’t want to start a family so I’ve got nothing but time. There are no real restrictions on my love life. I don’t feel like I need to get a man so that I can start popping out kids. I might not find a great man until later in life. I may never find him at all, but if I’m happy, that’s okay.
  8. I’m capable of giving myself all the love I need. The best thing I ever did was learn to love myself. Once I started giving myself the affection and attention I’d wasted on men who didn’t appreciate it, I realized that I was happier on my own. It’s terrific—it truly changed my life.
  9. I have the best circle of friends ever. I’ve always had stronger friendships than romantic relationships. They boost me up when I’m single because they help me realize that I have a ton of love and support in my life even without a boyfriend. Who needs a man when I’m surrounded by wonderful people?
  10. I love having time to devote to my family and my BFFs. There’s only so much time to go around, and my solo status means that I can give it to the people I love. I can visit my family whenever I want. I don’t feel guilty about dividing my attention between friends and a boyfriend. It’s wonderful.
  11. I actually prefer solo adventure and travel. I adore going new places alone. I can explore to my heart’s content and do whatever I want in the moment. It’s pretty amazing not to have to cater to anyone else. In fact, the more I adventure by myself, the more I suspect it may be my destiny to do so for the long haul.
  12. Going out by myself doesn’t phase me. Some people feel weird dining out alone or going to movies by themselves. Not me. I am perfectly comfortable taking myself out—I’m not going to miss out just because no one else is offering. I won’t sit around at home waiting.
  13. I no longer think that I need a partner to complete me. I always valued romantic love above everything else. I was young and I thought I needed it to have a happy life. While I’d still like to find the right man, I know now that I can live without him. I have an awesome existence regardless!
  14. I don’t want to waste any time searching for love. It’s just not worth it to me. I used to focus on finding a man so completely that I lost sight of everything else in my life. Then I realized I was letting my best years slip away pining for some fantasy of the perfect boyfriend.
  15. I’ve always been a bit of a loner anyway. I can be very social, friendly and outgoing as long as I get my alone time. I need a lot of space in order to recharge and rejuvenate myself to go back out into the world. That’s why I don’t have a problem remaining single—I don’t really get lonely.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.