Just Because You Haven’t Been On A Date In A While Doesn’t Mean Something’s Wrong

It’s impossible to go on dates all the time, no matter how hard you’re trying to put yourself out there. Every once in a while you go through a period where you just can’t catch a break, and you’re stuck sitting home with Netflix while it seems like everyone else is coupling up. It sucks, but it happens to everyone sometimes. Here’s why your dating dry spell isn’t the end of the world.

  1. It won’t last forever. You may be feeling pretty desperate for a date right about now but don’t worry, things will pick up. Maybe the beginning of the year isn’t the best time because people are still nursing their holiday party hangovers and getting back into the swing of things at work. Just keep at it.
  2. It’s happened before. It’s easy to forget, because when you can’t get a date, it seems like things were so much smoother in the past. But you’ve probably experienced a dry spell before where you spent a month on Tinder and OkCupid and got absolutely no dates out of all that swiping and messaging. You survived then, and you can this time, too.
  3. You’ll appreciate future first dates more. Yup, apparently this is possible – who knew? The silver lining of a dating dry spell is that once you get back in the game, you’ll appreciate your first dates. You’ll know how hard it can be to even set up something in the first place and will give guys more of a fair chance.
  4. You can’t compete with your friends. It’s hard when everyone you know seems to be meeting people left and right and you’re spending another weekend on the couch. But think back to a few months ago. You were probably dating every week and your friends were having their own dry spell. It’s all OK — it’s not a competition.
  5. It’s not a race. People are staying single longer today and you don’t have to worry about marriage or your biological clock – you have more important things taking up space in your brain. Don’t stress about how it seems to be taking forever for you to meet someone. That doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
  6. No one has everything. So your career is picking up speed these days but your dating life sucks? That’s just how it goes. Focus on what you do have in your life and know that someday things will balance out. After all, your best friend has the sweetest boyfriend but has been working the crappiest job for years. See?
  7. Dating is exhausting. It’s all about trying to read someone else’s mind and worrying about everything under the sun. Take your dating dry spell as a sign that it’s time to chill out and enjoy the break.
  8. You’re dodging a bullet. Sometimes you have the choice between going on a bad date and going on no dates at all. Remember that you might be getting let off the hook because your dates could be terrible. You’ve definitely had enough of those.
  9. You can keep trying. There are really no rules when it comes to how you want to date. You can go on 10 dates in a month and then none for the next few months. It’s all up to you. So stop worrying and enjoy the ride.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.