If He Does Any Of These 12 Things, He’s Lying When He Says He Loves You

It takes more than saying “I love you” to someone to show how you really feel. You might be completely in love with this guy, but unless he’s going out of his way to prove that he feels the same then you should be asking yourself if he’s even worth it. Here are 12 signs that prove he’s lying when he says those three little words:

  1. He belittles you in public. If he tries to embarrass you or make derogatory comments towards you whenever he’s in the company of friends, he doesn’t really love you. In fact, anyone who treats you like this doesn’t care about your emotional well-being at all and therefore they don’t deserve to be in your life. Often, this is a sign of emotional abuse and that’s when it’s important to get out of the relationship.
  2. He’s emotionally absent. Loving someone means being there whenever they need you, but if he’s never there when you need support or just someone to talk to about something that’s bothering you then rest assured, he doesn’t feel as strongly as you do.
  3. He tries to make you feel jealous. His not-so-subtle attempts at making you jealous is a sign that he craves attention not just from you but from anybody that will give it to him. Maybe he wants you to know that he could be with anyone but the fact that he chose to be with you should make you feel “lucky.” This tactic only proves one thing: he doesn’t deserve you.
  4. He compares you to other women. You are your own person, and who you are is so damn amazing. If he can’t see what he has, then he’s the one who’s missed out. Often, this type of behavior is just a way of trying to get your attention. It’s also about power—he wants to know that his words have some kind of impact. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of this toxic relationship. Don’t just walk away, run!
  5. He talks about leaving you. Whenever you have an argument or even a slight disagreement, he threatens to break up with you right there and then. Regardless of what you’re fighting about, he’ll find a way to put the blame on you when in actual fact he’s the one with the problem.
  6. He forgets about things that are important to you. Sure, he’s not going to remember every little thing you tell him but if he doesn’t at least try to remember then it’s probably because he couldn’t care less. If he conveniently forgets when it’s your birthday or forgets to show up for an anniversary meal that you’ve reminded him about several times, you have to wonder if his heart is really in it. Relationships require effort from both sides, and if he’s not putting in any effort then neither should you.
  7. He doesn’t go out of his way to make you happy. It doesn’t take much to show someone how much you care. After all, it’s the little things that are the most appreciated. When was the last time he did something nice for you just because? If nothing comes to mind, it’s because he simply doesn’t care about you enough. Those simple gestures often get overlooked but they can make or break a relationship. Clearly, he’s taking you for granted.
  8. He makes you feel like you’re a burden. When he has to do something for you like drop you off at work or go shopping for you because you can’t get out of bed, he makes it seem like you’re being a nuisance. Even though he should be happy to do small favors for you, he treats them like a chore. Sorry to break it to you but that’s not how love works.
  9. He dismisses you when you’re upset. Instead of being a shoulder to cry on, he pushes you away (both emotionally and physically) when you try to open up to him. If he’s failing to recognize your feelings or support you in any way, it shows how little you mean to him. Being cold and distant is a red flag because it shows that he clearly doesn’t have time for you. And that’s why you shouldn’t give him any of yours.
  10. He makes rude comments about your friends. Unless your friends are the worst people in the world (they probably aren’t), he should keep any mean comments to himself. If he loved you, he wouldn’t try to upset you by insulting the ones who you love.
  11. He comes to you for emotional support but never returns the favor. It’s always about his needs and never about yours. If he’s had a bad day, he expects you to listen to him and make him feel better but when it comes to you, he’s not invested in what’s going on in your life. Honestly, it looks like the relationship is all about convenience for him.
  12. He makes you feel like you’re not important. Instead of making you feel special, he always makes you feel second best. There’s always something or someone that he puts in front of you. When you confront him about this, he claims that he’s just “too busy” to make time to see you. Let’s face it—you make time for the people who are most important to you no matter how busy your life is. If it feels like he’s treating you like an option whereas you’re treating him as a priority, then it’s time for you to wake up and smell the coffee: you’re too good for him.
Coralle is a freelance writer with an interest in relationships, women's health and parenting. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching new Netflix shows and spending time with family.