Sure, He Likes You, But Will It Ever Turn Into Something Real?

Of course he likes you! I mean, what’s not to like? You’re amazing. No one’s questioning whether or not his feelings for you are real. The real question is: are those feelings enough for him to want to date you? It’s time to figure that out. If any of these 10 signs sound familiar, there’s a chance he does like you… he just doesn’t like you enough to actually want to be with you:

  1. He Acts Like He Likes You, BUT… He doesn’t do anything about it. Sure, he’ll flirt with you, but that’s about it. The flirting leads absolutely nowhere, and there’s nothing more annoying than pointless flirting, am I right? Instead of being straight-up about his feelings towards you, he drops little hints here and there — it’s because he doesn’t like you enough to verbally communicate his feelings like a grown man.
  2. He’ll Go To The Bars With You, BUT… He won’t hang out with you when you’re both sober. He’ll get drunk and make reckless decisions with you all night, every night, but once the sun comes up, he’s ready to split up and go his separate way. Obviously, he likes you enough to party and have fun with you (which is cool), but not enough to chill once that party is over (which is kinda crappy).
  3. He’ll Make Future Plans, BUT… They never happen. He’ll text you stuff like, “Let’s go for a hike this weekend!” or, “We have to see (insert movie title) when it comes out!” but nothing ever comes from the “future plans” he makes. He definitely wants to spend time with you, just not enough for him to pick a concrete date to spend said time together.
  4. He’ll Talk To You For Hours, BUT… Your conversations only touch the surface. He has no problem talking into the wee hours of the night about miscellaneous nonsense, but if you bring up something serious (AKA emotional), he quickly changes the subject and brings the convo back to his favorite video game.
  5. He Doesn’t Want You With Other Guys, BUT… He flirts and hooks up with other girls all the time. It’s not that he can’t stop, he just doesn’t want to. He likes having the freedom to do whatever he wants with whoever he wants. That doesn’t mean he wants you to, though. The second he gets a whiff of you vibing someone else, he gets mad jealous… but not jealous enough to lock you down.
  6. He’ll Ask To Hang Out, BUT… Only if it’s at his place. His idea of a date night is staying in, watching a movie, and ordering pizza, which wouldn’t be bad every once in a while. Unfortunately, it’s all the time! You see, he likes you enough to want to hang out with you — just not enough to take you on an official date.
  7. He Calls You When He Needs Advice, BUT… He’s not always there when you need him. You can text him, but he doesn’t always reply. That’s not a big deal; people have lives. However, if you don’t respond to his messages or forget to return his calls, he gets slightly irritated. Basically, he wants you to act like his girlfriend but doesn’t want to act like/be your boyfriend.
  8. He Sleeps With You, BUT… Once the deed is done, he’s ready to have his bed back to himself. No cuddling, besides the cuddling that naturally happens when trying to get out of certain positions. He’s fine if you want to stay and hang out after. In fact, he probably encourages you to stay, chill, and play some Minecraft. But he’s never once asked you to sleep over — that says everything!
  9. He’ll Compliment You On A Picture You Post, BUT… He’ll only say it privately. He won’t like your IG selfie or comment with kissy face emojis. What he will do is send you a text saying, “That pic you just posted is sexy.” WTF? If it’s so sexy, why wouldn’t he like it? Seems like he’s trying to keep your “relationship” on the down low. Which can only mean one thing: he likes you enough to compliment you, but not enough to do it publicly.
  10. He’ll Say You’re His Type, BUT… He still hasn’t made you his girlfriend. Maybe he’s admitted that he likes you, but you’re still here in this never-ending limbo. Moral of the story: he likes you, but not enough to want to make his feelings official. Lame! Throw him away like the piece of rubbish he is. Just kidding, he’s probably a nice guy who’s just petrified of commitment (but you should still walk away).
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.