If He Really Loves You, He’ll Do These Things Instead Of Leaving You Guessing

Some guys just like to play with women’s hearts, but when you meet one who really cares about you, all the games disappear. Say goodbye to BS, because this is the behavior you can expect from your guy.

  1. He won’t have a wandering eye. He won’t flirt with other women. He doesn’t check out other women in front of you and he’d never even think about cheating. Why? Because he only has eyes for one woman and that’s you. When a man’s love is real, you can feel safe knowing that you’re his one and only.
  2. He’ll not only tell you his feelings, he’ll show them too. When a guy truly loves you, he won’t be afraid to express how he feels about you. Every day you’ll wake up knowing that you’re loved. He won’t say one thing and do another. His words will never be meaningless. Plus, he won’t just say the words—he’ll show you how much you mean to him every single day.
  3. He won’t keep you waiting by the phone. He’ll actually text back in a timely manner. He’s not going to take you for granted by making you sit by the phone and decipher his messages when he finally gets around to sending them. He’ll text you back because he actually wants to talk to you and make plans with you. Guys who aren’t that into you will take days to reply or only hit you up when they’re bored, but a guy who loves you will text back at the first chance he gets.
  4. He’ll love you for exactly the person you are. You won’t feel the pressure to change yourself because that crap is reserved for men who don’t actually give AF. A guy who’s in love won’t make you feel like you’re not good enough. Instead, he’ll cherish you just the way you are. You’re an amazing woman and a man who deserves your love is going to see that.
  5. He won’t pressure you into sex. He’ll know that you’re worth the wait. Guys who push you out of your sexual comfort zone before you’re ready are guys don’t actually care about you. They only care about one thing: getting laid. When it comes to taking that next step, there should be no pressure from your partner.
  6. He won’t be afraid of commitment. You won’t receive BS excuses about how he’s not ready for a real relationship. When a man is actually in love with you, he’ll want to commit to you. He won’t beat around the bush or make you wait ages to take the next step. He’ll want to be your boyfriend and the only thing he’ll be afraid of is losing an amazing woman like you.
  7. He’ll make his intentions clear. Your love life shouldn’t be a guessing game. If he’s playing you hot and cold, then he doesn’t really care about you. A good guy won’t put you through the stress of wondering what he wants or whether or not he’s really interested in you. He’ll know how to make his intentions crystal clear because he’d never want to lose you over something as stupid as mixed signals.
  8. He won’t keep his options open. He isn’t going to have a backup plan just in case things don’t work out between you two. He doesn’t have women lined up for his next rebound. He doesn’t see being with you as a possibility or simply an option. You’re the only woman he wants to be with and that’s why he doesn’t keep one foot out the door. He’s with you 100% and that’s why you can feel safe and secure in his arms.
  9. If he says he’ll be there, he will be. If he really loves you, he’ll be a man you can count on. Just because you’re an independent woman doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to depend on your partner when needed. He should be the shoulder you can cry on. When you’re stressed out, he should be there offering to help carry the load.
  10. He’ll make an effort to gain your trust. He doesn’t create a relationship with you that’s built on lies. He tells the truth because you deserve the truth. A guy who doesn’t love or respect you doesn’t care about earning your trust or keeping it. He thinks that whatever you don’t know can’t hurt you, and that’s just not on.
  11. He’ll actually make time for you. Being a man’s last priority is all too typical modern dating crap. No matter what, if his feelings for you are real, he’ll actually want to spend time with you. Odds are you’re both busy, but when you really care about someone, you do whatever it takes to make the time to be together. It really is that simple.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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