Are You Headed For A Breakup? If Your Guy Does These 13 Things, The Answer Is Yes

A grown man will bite the bullet and tell you he doesn’t want to date you anymore. He’ll be decent enough to give you closure instead of ghosting you or treating you like crap so that you dump him. Ugh. If your boyfriend’s been doing any of the following 13 things, he wants to break up with you but he’s too much of a man-child to do it. You’ve been warned.

  1. He tells you that you’re going to be happy… with someone else. This is one of the shadiest ways to hear that a guy wants out of the relationship. You’re talking about the future or getting all philosophical after two glasses of wine, and your BF says that you’re going to be happy in the future or someone’s going to make you really happy. Ugh, wasn’t he supposed to be that person?
  2. He starts praising you in creepy ways. If a guy’s giving you compliments and reminding you why you’re awesome, that’s great. But if he’s going OTT in how he keeps saying you’re so amazing, you deserve the best relationship/life/future, he could be hinting that he’s not the one to give you those things.
  3. Nothing you do is right. He’ll criticize how you make his coffee, how you deal with your friends, or even how you roll out toilet paper (over or under? who cares?). He’s finding every and any excuse to get into an argument with you or piss you off to push you away. What a jerk.
  4. He’s in a bad mood that won’t budge. Sure, he’s been in bad moods before, but they’d pass—now it’s like he’s living under a black cloud. He might write it off as work stress or something else that doesn’t concern you but pay attention to how he is in the rest of his life. If he’s often light and full of laughter with his friends on the phone but sour AF with you, something’s up and he’s probably not happy in the relationship anymore.
  5. He’s fading out your family. He used to be keen on spending time with your loved ones, but now he’s quick to have an excuse for why he can’t go to Christmas lunch or your dad’s birthday party. When he does come, he sits on his phone the whole time or looks moody AF, like you held a gun to his head to get him there.
  6. He’s acting shady on social media. You chatted to your BF on the phone and he cut the convo short saying that he was tired and going to bed. Afterwards, you logged onto social media and saw the bastard was online! WTF? Was he chatting to someone else? If he’s lying to you and acting inconsistent with you, it’s a huge sign he’s crawling to the exit.
  7. He’s bringing himself down. Lately, it seems like he’s always talking about how crappy he is, or what a bad boyfriend he’s been to other women in the past. These are huge red flags that he’s trying to GTFO of the relationship. By painting himself as the really bad guy, it’s like he’s saying you deserve better than him. But hey, if he has been a jerk to other women and he’s too much of a coward to break up with you, then you know what? You do deserve better.
  8. His friends are checking in. Maybe your BF hasn’t been inviting you out with his friends lately, which was the first sign something was wrong. But now his friends are checking in with you to be sure you’re okay? Clearly, they know more than they’re letting on and your relationship’s headed for an iceberg.
  9. He stops making an effort. He’s become a lazy AF boyfriend. He never pays for dinner, always letting you pick up the bill, he doesn’t dress up when you do go out together, and the little things he used to do to make you feel special like opening the door for you have completely stopped. WTF? He doesn’t care what you think of him because he’s over you. So messed up.
  10. He asks if you’re really happy. A guy who checks in every now and then to make sure you’re happy in the relationship is sweet. But this behavior points to an impending breakup if it’s happening all the time or he doesn’t seem to believe you when you say you’re blissed out on happiness. Why? Because he’s not happy, and hoping that you’re on the same page. Instead of trying to grill you for answers, he should be saying he wants out.
  11. He’s hanging out with dodgy friends instead of you. The guys who are forever bachelors and like to hit the strip clubs or have affairs. Yeah, those friends of his that he distanced himself from when you started dating are back on the scene. He’s getting back into their lives instead of spending time with you. SMH. It really shows where his priorities lie.
  12. He’s canceled your upcoming vacation. Unless there’s a really good reason for canceling your upcoming getaway, the guy’s showing you that he just doesn’t want you in his future. The dodgy thing about this is that he’s telling you he’s too busy at work to go away but you know he’s lying.
  13. He makes you feel like you don’t make the cut. Instead of showing you how amazing you are and how lucky he is to have you, he’s finding ways to make you feel like crap. For instance, he tells you of the type of woman he usually goes for, and it’s clear that you’re nothing like his usual type. Hmmm. Seems he’s hinting that you just weren’t right for each other from the start. What a cheap shot to get you to dump him. Well, do it and say good riddance to the loser! Your dating type isn’t a man-child!


Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.