Here’s Why You Could Be The Most Amazing Girl In The World & Still Be Single

Here’s Why You Could Be The Most Amazing Girl In The World & Still Be Single ©iStock/JANIFEST

There’s no doubt that you’re just as amazing as all your friends who are coupled up, but finding a relationship that sticks is about a lot more than how great you are. Everyone is single at some point and that doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of love — it just means you haven’t found it yet. Here’s why that might be the case:

  1. The definition of “amazing” is pretty subjective. One guy’s “amazing” is another guy’s “good enough for now.” But if you think about it, that’s kind of a good thing, because if every guy you met wanted to marry you, you’d have a serious problem.
  2. It’s just not your time yet. It’s definitely frustrating to watch everyone you know pair off without even trying while it seems like every date you go on ends up being a colossal waste of time. Not everyone meets the man of their dreams when they aren’t even looking for him, but that doesn’t mean he’s not out there. You just have to be patient and focus on making yourself happy until the time comes.
  3. Maybe you’re more closed off than you think. In your mind, you’re 100% ready for something real and you’re even putting yourself out there and going on plenty of dates. But if you have a hard time opening up to people, it’s not going to be easy to make a connection with someone — especially not in our “keep swiping for someone better” world.
  4. You’re hung up on someone who’s wrong for you. You wouldn’t be single if the guy you really wanted would just get his act together and commit, but he’s shown you time and time again that he’s not worth your time. At some point you have to walk away and give some guys who will actually appreciate how awesome you are a chance.
  5. You’re too busy being amazing to make time for dating. There are inherent qualities that most guys are looking for in a girlfriend. Things like a great sense of humor and the ability to go with the flow would never be considered negative. But some other things that make you awesome, like your commitment to your career and your abundance of interesting hobbies, leave little time for going on dates. You’re on the right track though, because being happy on your own is the key to finding someone you could spend the rest of your life with.
  6. Being single is what you need. Maybe you’re still getting over a breakup or your job requires all your energy at the moment. There are times in everyone’s life when a relationship just complicates things, so re-evaluate and decide whether obsessing over dating is a productive use of your time right now. Don’t worry, all the dating apps and infuriating male behavior will still be there when you come back.
  7. There’s a lot of competition out there. You aren’t the only eligible bachelorette looking for love, you know. There are thousands of other girls looking for the funny, attractive, has-his-act-together man of their dreams too. That means sometimes you might have to be a little more proactive if you want to stand out. You can’t necessarily expect the right guy to show up out of nowhere.
  8. You won’t settle for just anyone. As a smart, funny, beautiful woman, it’s not like you have any shortage in guys who want to take you out. The problem is finding someone you connect with, and someone who feels the same way about you as you feel about him. No matter how effortless some people make it look, finding that one person that makes life better is hard. Don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t quite managed to find it yet.
  9. You actually really like being single. People in relationships always seem to assume that their single friends are desperately searching for love at all times. That’s definitely not the case. If you’re truly an independent woman, you probably enjoy being single, and if you’re going to get into a relationship it’s certainly not going to be for anything short of butterflies.
  10. There’s plenty of time to be in a relationship. Even if you have your life together and you’re interested in finding something serious, that doesn’t mean you need to rush into a relationship with the first guy who shows promise. Your relationship status doesn’t change how great you are, so there’s no rush. Might as well enjoy your freedom while it lasts.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.