Here’s How A Healthy Relationship Should Make You Feel

While no relationship is all sunshine and roses all the time, when you’re part of a healthy partnership, it should be obvious. There are big things like your happiness levels, but also subtler things like experiencing these important feelings.

  1. You feel that even on your worst day, you’re accepted. You can look your worst, feel your worst, and be your worst but your partner will always be your number-one supporter. You’re a team, after all, and you always have each other’s hearts and backs.
  2. You feel your self-worth is on a pedestal. When you and your partner fight, it doesn’t get ugly or toxic by name-calling or throwing each other down into the dirt. Your self-worth is always respected so that you don’t have to feel low about yourself afterward.
  3. You don’t have to walk around on eggshells. What you see with your partner and relationship is what you get. You don’t have to worry that your partner has a hidden agenda or is doing shady things behind your back. You don’t have to worry that your partner is toxic and it’s only a matter of time before they hurt you. Isn’t it amazing to ditch the drama and be able to relax and feel comfortable with someone?
  4. You can do you. You have your own life and goals and you feel you can spread your wings and achieve them. Your relationship isn’t holding you back. Even though it’s a priority in your life, it’s not the only one.
  5. You expect the best. You should be with someone who makes you feel that you can put your best expectations on them for a healthy relationship and not be called “too intense” for it. Instead of anticipating the worst, like your partner to flake on you, you feel you can expect the best future for your relationship. It’s awesome to have confidence in your partner because it rubs off on you.
  6. You feel good after dates. When you walk away from your partner and head back home, you feel good about the time spent with them. You feel calm and happy. That’s a good sign that you’re with the person you’re meant to be with because there’s nothing more telling that you’re in a bad situation than feeling drained or down after being with your partner.
  7. You feel like you’re working together. Instead of feeling like you’re always leading separate lives, you feel like you and your partner are working together on your goals and they excite you.
  8. You can express what’s on your mind. You should feel that you’re comfortable enough to tell your partner exactly what’s on your mind and how you feel, without worrying that they’ll call you “nuts” or mock you for what you’ve shared. When you can be exactly who you are, then you know you’re in a good relationship.
  9. You should always feel wanted. You should feel that your partner chooses you, not just in the beginning when they ask you out or later in the relationship when they ask you to be in a committed LTR, but every day. When you’re next to them, you should feel seen and wanted, not ignored or taken for granted. If you feel the need to ask them how they really feel about you or where things are going, that’s a red flag that they’re going nowhere.
  10. You should feel that your opinions are valid. It doesn’t matter if your partner disagrees with your opinions. They should still respect them instead of tearing them down. Ditto for how you treat the thoughts they express to you. Sometimes healthy relationships are about agreeing to disagree, without it making you feel like it’s a big issue or obstacle in the relationship that’s going to hold you back from a happy future together.
  11. You should feel excited to bring them into your life. When you decide to introduce your boyfriend to your friends and family, how does it make you feel? If you’re worried that your loved ones aren’t going to approve of him or that he’s going to make an awful first impression and embarrass you, that’s not cool. You should feel good about bringing your partner into your life and making them a part of it, otherwise, you’ll never feel like you can truly own your relationship.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.