Here’s How To Attract A Great Guy

Enough with waiting around for the perfect guy to enter your life. If you want someone, you have to go out and make a relationship happen. Here are 11 ways to start getting out there and attract the right person to you. It’s easier than you think.

  1. Learn from your relationship history. Maybe you dated toxic guys in the past who wasted your time and broke your heart. Now’s the time to learn from the people you chose and why they were all wrong for you so that you don’t attract the same kind of guy or repeat your mistakes. Just think, while you’re wasting time with bad guys who disappoint you, you’re blocking the right guy from entering your life.
  2. Sign up to a dating app. Yeah, dating apps can be freaky, but if you’re not having much luck finding someone in real life then they’re worth a shot. Besides, you can always uninstall them if you hate the experience. It might actually be a good idea to join different dating apps so you can have more choices.
  3. Spread the word. Don’t be afraid to tell people that you’re looking to meet someone. No, it doesn’t make you seem desperate or lonely, it just opens you up to possibilities. Hey, if you were looking for a new job, you wouldn’t hesitate to get the word out to your WhatsApp group. Why should dating be different?
  4. Go to the places you like to go. You might think, “If I want to meet a guy, I should go to the sports club or hardware store even though I hate sport and DIY.” You don’t have to do that. Instead of thinking in terms of the man you want to meet, rather focus on what you want and where you want to go. This will ensure that you meet likeminded people and enjoy yourself. There’s no point in being miserable.
  5. Try different things. Instead of eating at the same Italian restaurant every Friday night, try going somewhere else. By doing this, you not only give yourself the chance to meet new people, but you also have more fun and breathe some fresh air into your social life.
  6. Make new friends. If you keep spending time with the same people, you won’t be able to meet anyone new. That doesn’t mean you should ditch your friends, but broaden your social circle a little bit. You never know who’s standing just outside your social comfort zone.
  7. Ask your friends to set you up. Sometimes no one knows you better than your besties, so why not tell your friend you think her friend is cute and ask if she can set you up. As long as it’s a friend you trust, and who knows what you like, there’s really no harm in putting yourself out there a bit.
  8. Be the type of person you want to meet. It’s fine and well to say that you want a certain kind of person to enter your life, but make sure you have all the qualities you want in a partner. If you want someone ambitious, be more ambitious yourself. If you want someone who takes care of themselves, make sure you look after yourself. Doing these things will make you the best version of yourself, which will attract the same person into your life.
  9. Be your best wherever you go. You should always look and feel your best. When you do these things, you radiate confidence and seem more approachable to people. Hey, you never know who’s watching from the shadows and might be keen to say hello… But of course, being your best self is about you, not meeting your perfect match. That’s just a bonus.
  10. Don’t be afraid to say what you want. When you go on dates with guys, don’t be shy when it comes to telling them what you’re looking for in relationships. This cuts out all the BS and gives you a chance to figure out if they’re the right person for you or if you shouldn’t waste your time. Besides, the more you cut out all the crappy guys, the more you open yourself up to finding the right guy who meets your requirements.
  11. Be open to social media. You might think it’s lame or weird to meet someone new on social media, but stranger things have happened. You probably know someone who met their partner on Facebook or Instagram, so don’t be afraid. If you see someone you like and you happen to have mutual friends in common, send them a friend request. You should also be open to guys who reach out to you on social media. Although it’s creepy if someone slides into your DMs, if a guy genuinely seems like he wants to get to know you in a non-psycho way, give him a chance. You never know what could happen.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.