Here’s Why Strong Women Attract Confident Men

Have you ever noticed that strong, independent women seem to always attract confident men? That means they’re doing something right. If you’re not quite there yet but want to be, here are some qualities you should adopt. You’d be surprised at how much it will change your life.

  1. They’re not afraid to tell men (or anyone else) what they want. Strong women go after the things they want in life. They don’t sit by and just wait for love to fall into their lap. They’re not afraid to flirt and show a true interest but they also define that interest. They let a man know right away if they’re looking for a simple hookup or if they’re after a real relationship and they don’t stick around if a guy wants something different.
  2. They speak their minds. A woman with an informed opinion who loves to share that opinion is exactly the kind of woman a confident man is attracted to. Many women are shy about speaking up, so when one speaks her true thoughts, confident men will be eager to hear them. These women don’t worry that guys won’t like them if they don’t agree with everything that man says and laugh at his every joke. They’re honest, and that’s what makes them real.
  3. They’ll walk away from bad situations. Strong women hang onto unhealthy relationships. They’re not afraid to show a man the door. They don’t obsess over the idea that if things don’t work out with their current guy, they’ll never work out with anyone. They may not be entirely sure they’ll find true love, but they know that their lives will be happy anyway. At the end of the day, they’d rather be alone, single, and happy than trapped in a miserable relationship.
  4. They know what they deserve. Even better, they stick up for themselves. They don’t let men walk all over them because they know they deserve real love. Once a woman knows what she deserves from the man in her life, only then will she be able to receive that kind of love and only strong women know how to demand that kind of love. No matter what, they know that if they’re not getting the love they deserve, they always have other options.
  5. They’re already independent. The fact that they don’t need a man is sexy as hell. Confident men don’t want to be needed by their partners—they don’t want a woman who couldn’t do it all on her own. They don’t need women to depend on them in order to feel good about themselves, so when women want them purely because they love them with no ulterior motive, that’s the best feeling in the world.
  6. They have confidence all on their own. Confidence attracts confidence. One of the best parts about loving a strong woman is that her self-confidence isn’t dependent on a man. Men don’t have to constantly shower these women in compliments in order to make sure they feel pretty. Strong women know their strengths in beauty, intelligence, humor and so much more and they show their confidence in everything they do and say.
  7. They know who they are and they’re not afraid to be themselves. Being someone you’re not is one of the easiest ways to lose a man (and yourself). If you want a confident man who’s going to be confident in his feelings for you then you need to let him get to know the real you. Strong women attract amazing men who fall for exactly the person they are because at the end of the day, these incredible women just don’t know how (or want to be) anyone else.
  8. They refuse to play games. A strong woman doesn’t mess around with mind games. She doesn’t need to test a man’s love because she knows that when a man really loves you, he makes it very clear. She doesn’t play hard to get, she IS hard to get because she’s a catch and guys know it. Games are for the weak and immature, and strong women just don’t crave that kind of drama.
  9. They won’t be told what to do. Strong women don’t play by the BS rules of modern dating. They don’t wait three days to text or call a guy they really like. They don’t pretend they can deal with something casual just to “see where things go.” Modern dating is a lot of crap and strong women just brush it away. They know that by breaking the rules it might scare some men off, but in the end, those are the men they wouldn’t want to date. No one tells a strong woman what to do—not a man, not society, and certainly not any unwritten set of dating rules.
  10. They’re willing to fight for men they truly care about. Strong women don’t expect men to make all the effort—they’re not afraid to work for a relationship. They’ll plan dates and woo their guys just like women like to be wooed. They don’t give men ridiculous boyfriend standards and expect them to lavish them with Instagram-worthy gifts, shower them with love on social media, or expect them to wait on them hand and foot. They just want guys to love them will all their hearts and they’ll give him that same love in return.
  11. They have lives of their own. A strong woman has so much more going on in her life than just love. She has a career, family, friends, hobbies, and interests—all of the things that make her who she is. She’s a fully fleshed-out person on her own who doesn’t need a man to complete her. She doesn’t mind when her guy has a boy night and encourages him to work hard at his career because she’s doing the exact same thing. At the end of the day, strong women attract confident men, because they don’t ever let men define their lives.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.