When you first start dating a guy, the pressure’s on. You feel you have to act/look/think a certain way to keep him interested, but stop stressing yourself out! A guy who truly likes you will want you for who you are, not who you think you should be to impress him. Here are 12 things to stop worrying about because they won’t scare away the right guy:
- Double-texting You sent him a text and he never answered, so you re-sent the same text or sent a new message. You regret it and worry that he’s going to think you’re psycho. But come on, it’s just a text (okay, two). Stop beating yourself up. If he’s going to get put off by something so small, he’s way too small for you.
- Calling him first You want to talk to him after the first date instead of wait for him to get in touch, so you call him to say you had a great time. So what? Why should you hold back so that he can text/call you first? That’s BS. If he’s into you, he’ll really like that you’re taking the initiative.
- Having a texting marathon You want to kick yourself for not following the dating advice that you should exit a conversation early on to keep the mystery alive. Now it’s been three hours of texting the guy and you fear he’s going to get bored. What? The fact that he’s spending so much time texting you means he’s really interested and enjoying talking to you!
- Wanting to go slow The chemistry between you and the guy you’ve met is off the charts, but you want to take things slowly, perhaps to guard your heart. There’s nothing wrong with that and a guy who likes you won’t run away because of this. He’ll respect your decision and agree to take things slowly. He won’t care how slowly you want to take things as long as he’s in your life.
- Being the first to say those three words Who made the rule that a guy’s got to tell a woman he loves her before she can utter those words? Saying “I love you” can be a spontaneous thing, a swell of emotion that hits you in a special moment. The right guy won’t think, “Oh gosh, she’s clingy” when you tell him you love him. He’ll say he loves you too, or if it’s too soon for him to say it, he’ll at least love hearing it.
- Replying to his message right away When you hear a message ping on your phone, you’re excited to reply to the guy right away instead of waiting an hour or more. Why shouldn’t you? Will it really matter if you wait five minutes or five hours? Hell no. A guy who’s into you isn’t going to see you as desperate or clingy. He’ll be glad to see you’re interested in chatting to him.
- Putting on weight You might worry that a bit of extra weight around your hips or thighs is going to make your guy go off you, but that only happens if the guy’s an jerk. Honestly, men usually don’t even notice when their GFs put on weight! And, what really puts off a guy isn’t that she’s put on a few pounds but that she hates herself for it. That’s what’s really unattractive.
- Showing your bare face If the thought of showing a guy you’re dating what you really look like without layers of makeup frightens you, it’s probably your own issues at play. A guy who loves you won’t care that you’re not wearing mascara. In fact, he’ll probably prefer you being natural.
- Being too eager You might fear coming across as too eager or available to the guy you’re dating, such as by accepting his last-minute date request. But the mere fact that he’s asking you out means he’s hoping you’ll say yes to him. If he thought you’d be desperate to accept his invite, he wouldn’t ask you out!
- Sharing traits with his (crazy) ex When you hear how crazy his ex was, you might fear doing anything that makes you remotely similar to her. Don’t think you have to be completely different from her in order to impress him. Be yourself. Even if there are a few similarities between you and her (and there probably will be if he has a “type”), it doesn’t mean he’ll change his mind about you. If he loves you, he’ll see you for who you are.
- Showing real interest A guy who likes you won’t get freaked out by you wanting to spend time with him and ask him questions to find out what he’s like. He’ll be happy to share himself with you and he’ll reciprocate by wanting the same things.
- Revealing your “flaws” You might hate the thought of the guy you’re dating seeing your quirks, such as how you’re sometimes antisocial, can easily read in bed all weekend, are obsessive about being punctual or freak out at the thought of eating strawberries. The guy who’s meant to be in your life will think your quirks are adorable, not weird. Things you consider to be your “flaws” or weirdness are actually what make you special. Embrace them.
