If He’s Lazy With The Rest Of His Life, He’ll Be Lazy With Your Relationship Too

Some people are just plain lazy. They’ll make every excuse in the book as to why their life is the way it is and they’re so unhappy, but when it really comes down to it, they just aren’t doing anything to change their own circumstances. If you meet this kind of man, run, because if he doesn’t make any sort of effort in the rest of his life, there’s no way he’ll make an effort for you.

  1. All relationships take work. Even the best relationships don’t come easy. Every couple has to work to love and understand each other the best that they can day after day. Do you really think a lazy man will be willing to do that? He won’t be able to stick by your side through thick and thin because that takes real work. The second things get hard, he’ll bail and you’ll be left alone in pieces once again.
  2. He’ll expect you to be his sugar mama. Are you prepared to take care of a man who’s too damn lazy to do anything for himself? You work hard for the money you earn, and he should be making an equal effort. You don’t need a man mooching off you. You’re strong and independent and definitely don’t want to be dating someone who doesn’t have those same qualities at the very least.
  3. He won’t be mature enough for a real relationship. Lazy men are men who don’t know how to grow the hell up. You deserve better than a man-child. You’ll have to take care of his every need. He was most likely babied by his mother and he’ll want you to baby him too. He’s not mature enough to be a boyfriend because he’s still living his life like he’s a child. Do you really want to date Peter Pan?
  4. All lazy men do is take, take, take. They don’t know how to give because giving would take an actual effort. Relationships are supposed to be a partnership, but if you’re dating a lazy guy, the work you put in will never be equal. If you ever need something from him, you’d better look somewhere else because while he expects to depend on you, you’ll never be able to depend on him.
  5. Lazy men are selfish men. All they care about is themselves. If you’re with a lazy man, it will never be about you — it’s always going to be about him. Nothing in life is just handed to you, but that’s what a lazy man expects. You’ll do all the work and he’ll reap all the benefits — that’s just how he operates.
  6. You deserve a man who’s going to appreciate how amazing you are. A lazy man does whatever it takes just to get by. He’ll always take the easiest route, and that’s not what you need. You need a man who’s going to make an effort to appreciate just how special you are and show you just how much you mean to him. Unfortunately, just like everything else in his life, a lazy man will always take you for granted.
  7. He’ll never care about your happiness. Why? Because it’s always going to compromise his. What makes a lazy man happy is being lazy, so if you’re asking for him to make an effort, that’s not going to work. Your wants and needs will always take a backseat. He might be happy with that, but will you be?
  8. He won’t know how to be independent. You’re self-sufficient and can fend for yourself, so do you really want a man who can’t do the same? He won’t just want to be with you, he’ll need you in his life—emotionally, physically, financially, and every which way in between. If you were thinking about having a relationship while maintaining your independence, good luck, because you’re about to be attached at the hip.
  9. He’ll only drag you down. A lazy man will in no way better your life. He’s not going to bring out the best in you because he can’t even bring out a decent version of himself. He doesn’t have his act together, so do you really plan on sorting his life out for him? He doesn’t belong in your life until he can figure out his own damn problems. A man should make your life easier, not more complicated.
  10. You shouldn’t have to teach a man how to be good to you. Even if he’s never been in a real relationship, treating you right should come naturally. There’s no learning curve here. If he really cares for you then he’s going to make an effort. The problem is, he’s never cared enough about anything in his entire life. He’s simply too lazy to give a damn, and you’re too good for a man who doesn’t at least try to give you the love you deserve.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.