He’s Not Boyfriend Material If He’s Not Doing These Things

If you’re going to make room in your already full life for a guy, he needs to be worth it. While some of the stuff you’re looking for in a relationship and a potential partner will be unique to you, there are certain qualities that any man who’s “boyfriend material” will have right off the bat. If he does these things, you may have finally found a keeper:

Erasing any doubts about the relationship. A good boyfriend doesn’t keep you guessing about how he feels, where things are going or anything else because he knows you deserve better. Plus, he knows you’re a catch and that if he doesn’t step up to the plate, some other guy could swoop in and steal you from right under his knows. He knows what he wants, and that’s you.

Thinking you’re the hottest girl in the world. Any guy who’s boyfriend material thinks you’re the most beautiful woman that ever existed and he tells you so through his words and actions. Yes, he’s physically attracted to you, but he also thinks you’re beautiful because of who you are, and that’s an incredible feeling.

Making your heart melt. When you think about him and the cute thing he did the last time you were together, it makes your heart melt a little and a goofy grin come across your face. It’s not because you’re infatuated with him (though there’s no shortage of lust there) but because he’s so special. He’s thoughtful, kind, and always goes out of his way to make you feel appreciated. Awwwwww.

Being honest, even when it’d be easier to lie. A guy who’s good boyfriend material is always honest, and not just in the sense that he isn’t actively lying or hiding things from you. He’s honest about his thoughts and feelings and hopes and fears on any topic because he’s comfortable opening up to you and values your thoughts about his thoughts. He knows being lied to is more hurtful than hearing a difficult truth, and he cares about you too much to not be upfront from the beginning.

Making room for you in his life. Life gets hectic sometimes, but no matter how busy he gets, he’s never too busy for you. He’s also never conflicted about his feelings for you or about relationships in general. He has room for you now, and if he doesn’t, he’s specifically rearranging his priorities so that he does because you matter to him.

Admiring you. Boyfriend material doesn’t just like you, he admires your mind, body, and soul. He should be slightly in awe of your presence, like he can’t quite believe his luck that a goddess like you even exists, let alone that you’re in his life.

Making you see things in a different way. A guy who’s boyfriend material will open your eyes to something new, whether that’s one of his hobbies, a new cuisine, or a completely new perspective on one of the Big Things in life that you hadn’t considered before. Something about him makes the world seem bigger and more amazing than it did before you met, and that’s a gift.

Making sex feel like so much more. Sex is a huge part of most relationships, so something special should be happening between you. Sometimes this is unparalleled lust and sometimes it’s just a sweetness when you come together that you’ve never experienced before — maybe both. It’s different for everyone, but the point is that it should be amazing compared to the guys who aren’t boyfriend material.

Being not just your partner but your friend too. That man who’s boyfriend material is both your lover and your friend. He’ll do whatever it takes to satisfy you in bed and then tell you a funny story afterwards and be affectionate the whole way through. He’s not trying to split his focus and compartmentalize you into one piece of a relationship — you’re the whole package and he’s all in.

Not hiding your relationship. He’s open about the relationship because you’re an important part of his life and he wants everyone to know how proud he is to have you. He doesn’t care what other people think — he’s made up his mind and that’s good enough for him. He certainly isn’t trying to hide anything.

Feeling secure with himself. He isn’t looking for some arm candy or trying to mold you into someone you aren’t. He’s secure enough with himself to accept you as you are, and he’s also secure enough to respect the life you were living before he came into it. He knows you’ll offer the same in return, and that’s what makes your relationship so damn good.

Expecting you to be girlfriend material. This is a two-way street, and any guy who’s good enough to meet your standards should have some standards of his own. He’s not going to date just any girl that comes his way for the sake of dating, so if you’re in his life, it’s because you have a lot to offer. You’re both complete, fulfilled people on your own, so when you come together, you make for an amazing team.

Being consistent. A guy who’s boyfriend material is consistent in the sense that he’s true to himself, his values and his feelings all the time. He doesn’t show up one day and shower you with affection and compliments and then disappear for two and not return your texts. He’s isn’t passionate about a subject one day and then hates it the next. Life and moods can be unpredictable, but he should be consistent enough that you feel stable with him even when everything seems to be shifting around you.

Being full of possibilities. The word “potential” gets thrown around a lot so let’s go with possibility. It’s not that he has to rise to some imaginary bar that exists out there, but that having him in your life will open you up to possibilities that you haven’t yet experienced. Isn’t that what love is all about?

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