Honestly, I’m Enjoying Being Single Way More Than I Thought I Would

I don’t do casual sex, I do love. I’m a relationship girl who won’t settle for anything less than commitment, but I’m not really looking for it right now. In fact, I’m really enjoying the single life. Here’s why:

  1. I love my independence. I actually like that I can depend solely on me and that I don’t need to constantly lean on someone else. I like being on my own. I’m a relationship girl but I’m also an introvert, so being by myself just feels good to me. I’m strong and independent and that’s giving me confidence like never before.
  2. I wouldn’t even have time for a boyfriend. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I don’t have a life. I’m busy AF. I already have a long list of priorities and at this point in my life, I’m not ready to add a mature relationship into that mix. I can’t promise time to a man when I don’t have any to spare. I might be single but I’m definitely not sitting home crying about how I don’t have a boyfriend every night.
  3. I don’t need to have sex. I can go without because, for me, sex just isn’t as great without emotions. That being said, if I do need an orgasm, a vibrator can get the job done just fine (and maybe ever better). Some people might be good with casual sex but casual doesn’t work for me. I can satisfy my own needs.
  4. I just got out of a relationship. I’m a relationship girl but I don’t need to hop from one love to another. If I did, then every relationship would just be a rebound of the last. Maybe it has been a little while since my last relationship, but that doesn’t mean I’m ready to jump back in. Right now, I think it’s good for this relationship girl to just experience the single life.
  5. I’m working on my career. I have life goals that have nothing to do with finding a guy. There’s more to me than my relationship status. My mission in life is not to be coupled up. I have actual dreams that are about more than just a fairytale Prince Charming sweeping me off my feet and into the sunset for our happily ever after. I want to be a career woman, and as of right now that’s my real dream.
  6. I’m happy on my own. Is that really so hard to believe? I don’t need a man to make me happy. In fact, it would be impossible for a man to make me happy because I know that happiness comes from within. It’s an internal feeling, not an external one, so I don’t need a man to make my life feel whole or good or complete. I have myself and I’m happy with exactly who I am and the life I’m living.
  7. Relationships take a lot of work. Right now, I’m loving the fact that I don’t need to make that extra effort. I might not have a boyfriend but I also don’t have petty fights or have to work to make sure someone else is still happy. I know that even the best relationships aren’t always easy and for the time being, I just don’t want my personal life to be that hard.
  8. It’s my time to be selfish. I’m single and that means my life is all about me. Being in a relationship means sharing my life with someone else. It means a partnership where I have to constantly consider the thoughts and feelings of another. No one has a say in my single life, though. It’s all about me, myself, and I.
  9. I’m having a great time with my girls. I’m not ready to sacrifice time with my girlfriends in order to make time to have a boyfriend. I love my friends and we’re having the best time being single ladies together. I’m not the last single girl left, so I don’t feel pressure to be the next one down the aisle. We might not have boyfriends, but we have each other and right now that’s enough for me.
  10. I love that my life is drama-free. The fact is relationships always come with drama. That’s what happens when you try to put two lives together. Even the best relationships have friction from time to time. Taking men out of the equation though can just make life a hell of a lot easier. I’m not saying I’ll never have another relationship. I’m just waiting for men (and myself) to gain a little more maturity.
  11. I know that someday I’ll find true love. I’m a relationship girl, which means I’m not planning on being single forever. I know that I’ll find my Prince Charming eventually but I’m in no rush to reach my happy ending. Right now I’m young, single and free. A time will come when I’m ready to settle down, but for the time being, I’m happy with single me.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.