Why the Hottest Guys Are Usually Losers

Not all hot guys are losers, but a lot of the arrogant losers out there are super hot, and there sure are a lot of them. It’s not that we want to date pushovers, but occasionally it would be nice to come across a guy who’s physically attractive AND kind. So why exactly is this loser phenomenon occurring?

  1. They have a lot of options. Facts are facts: hot guys have a lot of options when it comes to women. If there were attractive people basically lining up for their chance at your door, you might not be so worried about how quickly you move through them.
  2. Women like bad boys. Ultimately we want someone to treat us right, but that doesn’t seem to keep us away from the slightly dangerous, overly confident rebels in the meantime. The problem is, guys know this, so they play up those negative traits to get more attention, and we tend to fall for it (at least for a while).
  3. They’re often immature. People who are used to getting by using their looks don’t always develop the necessary social skills that other people do. Why do you think that dorky guy at work is so funny? He still has the mindset of a 15-year-old, not a grown man, and that’s a problem.
  4. They’re interested in image. Guys who are interested in upholding a certain image tend to be more self-involved, which means less concern for your feelings. However, they can’t waste too much time thinking about you, because they’ve got themselves to pay attention to.
  5. They haven’t been hurt. A lot of hot guys are the ones doing the breaking up and not the other way around, so they really can’t relate to those types of emotions. Until they’ve walked in your shoes – which, because of the aforementioned hotness, is unlikely – they’ll never get it.
  6. Or they’ve been super hurt. The other alternative is that a hot guy gets the rug pulled out from under him, hits heartbreak central, and vows never to let someone get that close again, because he thinks he’s way too hot to be dumped.
  7. They have underlying insecurities. Just because hot guys act confident doesn’t necessarily mean that they are. A lot of people who are focused on looks end up being more insecure than us normal looking ones.
  8. They’re power-hungry. When guys start getting new attention from unexpected places, it can feed their ego and leave them wanting more. And more and more. There’s no combination quite like good looks and egomania.
  9. They tend to come of age in the “popular” group. Not all popular kids in school are unkind (or grow up to be), but there’s definitely an exclusive group mentality that can be hard to shake in the real world. Of course, most grown adults do, but he’s not really grown up, is he?
  10. They don’t want to be tied down. The hot guy feels like the world is his oyster in many different ways, and he makes an effort to clear people out of his path whenever he sees fit.
  11. They don’t have to get as deep. When guys live with an abundance mentality when it comes to women, it’s easier for them to cut things off suddenly without much introspection about what went wrong and just move on to the next one.
  12. Science says so. Studies have legit found that hot men are more egocentric, selfish, and elitist, which the evolutionary theory suggests has to do with how much people have to gain in society by perpetuating social inequality. Damn.
  13. Because we allow them to be. We complain about the hot losers but we still lust after them, then let them walk all over us, and keep feeding the exact thing that we say we don’t like. Basically, it’s kind of our fault – but not completely.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com