How Do You Know When A Guy Is Thinking About Cheating On You?

If only you could predict when your partner was thinking about cheating on you, it would prevent a world of pain. It’s not always possible, but if you notice any of these 12 signs, it could be that infidelity is on his mind. Remember: it’s not your job to prevent cheating! If you see it coming, get out and protect yourself.

  1. He hides his phone from you. If he guards his phone as though it’s the most precious item in the world, it can make you suspicious that he’s chatting to someone else and doesn’t want you to see the incriminating texts. The guy takes his phone to the bathroom with him and never takes it out of his pocket, even when you’re chilling on the sofa. Shady!
  2. He’s more active on social media. If he never used to care for social media much but now he’s basically online all day, you have to wonder who he’s chatting to or if he’s just trying to meet new people. It’s even more of a warning sign if he’s always online but ignoring you.
  3. He’s always posting sexy selfies. If he never used to show himself much on social media but now he’s always posting shirtless selfies on Facebook and Instagram. He also seems to love the positive comments from other women. He’s just not acting like he’s your boyfriend.
  4. He’s got mentionitis. This doesn’t just happen when he’s already cheating – he could be guilty of mentioning another woman even before he’s made a move on her. He’s clearly already obsessed with her. You’ve been warned that cheating is on the cards.
  5. He has accused you of cheating. This is the classic behavior of a guy who feels guilty about cheating or thinking about cheating. If you had to be unfaithful, it would give him permission to go ahead and do the same. Ugh, how pathetic.
  6. He’s hiding things. You ask him where he went the other night and he can’t tell you. You ask him why he doesn’t answer your calls much anymore and it turns into a fight. What is he hiding? It’s like he’s trying to prevent you from knowing everything about his life, and there’s a reason for that.
  7. He’s not as romantic as he used to be. If he used to be charming and romantic but now he doesn’t even want to go on dates, that’s a bad sign. He could be getting over your relationship, which puts him in the perfect position to start searching for someone else, especially if he’s also guilty of other points on this list.
  8. He’s questioning his life. A guy who questions his life a lot and is making big changes in it could end up making those big changes in his romantic relationship too. This is especially the case if it seems like he’s trying to impress women with those big changes, like if he’s dressing much better and going to the gym all the time.
  9. He’s expressing shocking views. You’re talking about cheating or relationships, and he mentions that he doesn’t think cheating’s bad. Um, what? This is especially surprising if he was always the type who used to say that cheating was pathetic. Something’s obviously changed, and it could be a warning sign for your relationship.
  10. He’s always checking other women out. It’s totally normal to window shop when you’re in a relationship but it’s a different ballgame when the guy’s ogling over other women all the time. What it really says is that he’s checked out of your conversation, and maybe even your relationship.
  11. He’s all about the single life. If it seems like the guy’s acting like a single guy all the time, such as by partying a lot and spending time with all his single forever buddies, then maybe he’s testing out the waters of being single again.
  12. He tells you he’ll never cheat. If it feels weird when your BF tells you out of the blue that he’d never cheat on you, that could actually be a sign that he would do it given half the chance. He might do this to make sure that you won’t suspect him of cheating in future, even if some red flags pop up.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.