I thought it would be difficult to get rid of drama for good but it wasn’t. Once I decided that it wasn’t worth it to live that way, the rest was easy. This is how I rid my world of silly conflicts and unnecessary chaos for good.
- I learned to take care of myself. For the longest time, I felt guilty putting myself first. I didn’t want to be perceived as selfish or rude. Then I realized that I could actually give more freely to others if I protected my own energy beforehand. It’s not selfish, it’s a necessity. Realizing that has been incredibly powerful.
- I started saying no. One of the most important steps towards successfully creating a peaceful world for myself was learning to listen to my gut and respectfully decline those things that I knew deep down I couldn’t or shouldn’t do. Now, if I don’t have the time or the energy, or if it just doesn’t feel right, then I say no.
- I stopped caring about the other people’s opinions. It was a lot easier to get rid of drama once I refused to let people manipulate me and the way I feel about myself and my life. That didn’t go over too well, of course, but that’s fine. It showed me who I needed to purge from my world and who was a real friend.
- I said goodbye to toxic people. This is probably the single biggest specific step I took in creating a stress-free life for myself. Once the negativity was removed, it was much easier to focus on what I need and want. I learned to recognize toxicity from the get-go and block those people from accessing me.
- I distanced myself from unhealthy situations. This applied to work, friendships, romances, even family. Maybe especially family! I stopped feeling guilty for taking care of myself and started mindfully choosing how and with who I wanted to spend my time. Thinking of time as a valuable commodity made all the difference.
- I chose my newer friends based on my gut. The friends I made in the past couple of years were more aligned with me and attuned to who I had become. They got me in a way that the friends I made when I was in a bad headspace didn’t and probably never will. They became my tribe because I used my heart to find them.
- I refused to tolerate men who play games. Much of the drama in my life was internal and much of that internalization was related to dating. I tortured myself over guys who wouldn’t give me clear answers and played with my heart. I decided to suffer no fools and my life became better for it.
- I began trusting my instincts. This was everything. The problem was that I wasn’t sure initially how to differentiate between my head, my heart, and my gut talking. I didn’t trust myself to make the correct decisions, but once I started going for it, I gained confidence. Realizing that I was doing the right thing helped me progress further.
- I embraced my need for solitude. If people think it’s weird, whatever. If they don’t understand it, whatever. When I was younger, the people around me judged me for my preference to spend time on my own. Once I started owning the fact that I need that alone time and stopped letting others make me feel weird about it, I became much happier.
- I started being fiercely authentic. I basically stopped being uncomfortable in my own shoes. I made a decision to quit wasting time and get busy being exactly who I am with no shame involved. I was far too self-conscious in my younger years. Cutting through the crap made my life much simpler.
- I lightened up and chilled out. Changing my attitude and perspective greatly assisted me in ridding my life of any excess drama. I stopped talking crap, stopped judging, and stopped taking everything so seriously. Once I decided that holding grudges wasn’t worth it, I was able to build better relationships.
- I stopped pretending to like people with bad energy. Of course, part of this involved letting go of my own bad energy. I had plenty to spare once upon a time! Then I realized that I was surrounding myself with people who were dragging me down with them, and I shed them one by one until I was finally free.
- I let go of those who didn’t actively try to stay present in my life. I began to understand that I was in control of my own resentment towards others. If I felt like they weren’t true friends, I had a responsibility to myself to ditch them. I learned that it wasn’t a poor reflection on me—I had to stop carrying dead weight.
- I simplified every aspect of my life. Keep it simple, right? I didn’t want any more clutter, drama, or chaos, so I let go. I let go of things. I let go of people. I let go of ideas about who I should be and what I should do. I started focusing on the simplicity of being present in the moment and let my instincts guide me from there.
