How Do You Know When A Guy Isn’t Interested In You Anymore? Look For These Signs

Not all guys will stop talking to you when they’re no longer interested. Some won’t have the heart to tell you the truth, so they’ll keep in contact with you even when they’ve emotionally let you go. So how do you know when a guy isn’t interested in you anymore? You just have to look for these simple signs. Although it hurts to find out a guy doesn’t like you anymore when you like him, you deserve to know the truth. And you deserve to get out there and find a guy who likes you and all your wonderful qualities!

  1. He stops initiating the conversation. When a guy (or girl) likes you, you won’t have to initiate the conversation the whole time. He will want to talk to you, so he will initiate at least some of the conversation between you. One of the first signs that he’s lost interest is if he stops talking to you first. Do you notice that you’re always the one to start the conversation? If the interest is mutual, then the responsibility to initiate conversation will be too.
  2. He stops initiating catch-ups. It’s normally not a great sign if a guy stops trying to catch up with you. A lot of the time, this means that he doesn’t want to see you anymore. It’s possible that he’s tired of always being the one to initiate catching up and is pulling back on purpose, but that’s the exception. Especially when paired with the other signs, this is usually an indication that he has lost interest.
  3. He’s suddenly busy all the time. Life can become busy out of the blue. But for most people, it has to get ridiculously busy to keep them from seeing the person that they’re romantically interested in. If he is suddenly too busy to catch up and too busy to reply to your texts, it could be that he’s just looking for an excuse. Sometimes, a guy will make a point of telling you that he’s super busy in the hope that you’ll stop trying to contact him or ask him out.
  4. The banter starts to feel strained. The banter between two people who are interested in each other usually flows a certain way. While the nerves might bring about some awkward moments, you’ll usually find that it’s easy to talk to someone who’s interested in you. They’ll want to know more about you so they’ll ask more questions. And they’ll probably want to impress you so they’ll also share more info. But when he doesn’t like you in that way anymore, the conversation can feel super strained. It can be a bit like pulling teeth because his heart is no longer in it.
  5. It takes him a long time to reply. Be wary of guys who leave you on read for days. Although you never truly know what’s going on in someone else’s life, the truth is we all reply to the people we want to reply to. Even if he’s super busy and working 12 hours a day, it takes five seconds to send a quick text saying he’s received your message and he’ll reply properly when he can. No one is so busy that they don’t have a spare minute to acknowledge a text. So if he’s not replying, it’s most often because he doesn’t want to.
  6. He treats you like an option. If he’s treating you like an option, he’s just not that interested in you. He might want you when he’s got no other prospects, or as a last resort. But he’s not the type of interested in you that you deserve. You deserve someone who wants you all the time, not just when his other options fall through.
  7. When you do hang out, he cuts it short. If you’ve ever liked someone, you’ll know this already. You wouldn’t cut your time with someone you were really keen on short, would you? Assume it’s the same for the guy you’re texting. When he starts to leave your dates early and make excuses as to why he can’t stay long, it’s likely that he has lost a bit of interest.
  8. He starts sending mixed messages. There’s nothing more frustrating than mixed messages in the world of dating. Unfortunately, mixed messages often mean that his heart isn’t in the right place, but he’s trying hard to hide that. Remember that actions speak louder than words. If he says he’s into you but is never available, that says a lot. It is also a red flag if he makes plans with you but then cancels them at the last minute. Look for the behavior that is the most dominant. Does it show that he likes you or that he’s over it? Words are easier to fake than actions.
  9. There’s something off about him, but you don’t know what. Your intuition might be able to pick up on whether he’s over you or not. Do you just have a strange feeling that things aren’t okay between you? When someone loses interest in you, you can normally feel it in your gut. You’ll pick up on the subtle things he says and does that your conscious mind not even notice. Always trust your gut feeling.
  10. He stops making an effort around you. If he likes you, he’ll naturally want you to like him. So it makes sense that he’ll make extra effort around you. He might wear his best clothes or talk about what a cool job he has. Or he might try hard to make you laugh. But if he loses interest in you, impressing you won’t be so important to him. Look out for signs that he doesn’t care how you perceive him, like changes in his clothes. You can even pay attention to his overall attitude when he’s around you. Does he seem a little nervous around you, or like he couldn’t care less? Once he stops caring what you think of him, it’s a sign that he has lost interest.


Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.