As a guy, I appreciate how hard it is to get one of us to settle down. Of course, there are ways that you can trick a guy into committing to you, but it’s another thing to make a guy actually want to commit to you and take things to the next level. I can tell you that if he feels pressured into commitment and doesn’t really want it, the relationship probably won’t last. However, with a few subtle forms of encouragement, it’s possible to get him ready for a serious relationship and actually want to lock things down.
- Prove you’re the best. Think about it this way: would you commit to a guy who wasn’t the greatest thing that ever happened to you? Would you commit to someone who doesn’t make you feel amazing all the time? Well, that feeling goes both ways. You have to convince him that you’re this person for him. Prove to him that you’re the best thing that will ever happen to him and that you’re worth him making a serious commitment.
- Show you understand him. Deep down, guys just want to feel supported and understood. It’s hard for them to settle down and commit if they don’t feel that way about someone. I’m sure it’s similar for you ladies. Thus, your challenge is to show him that you understand what makes him tick and that you inspire him to be his best self. If you can convince him that you want what’s best for him, it’ll be easier for him to overcome any fear of commitment he might have.
- Be confident. Believe it or not, men are super into confident women, especially when it comes time to make a commitment. Keep in mind that his dating history has probably been littered with insecure and immature women. If you want him to commit to you, prove to him that you’re different. When he recognizes that he’s with someone who’s confident and self-assured, he’ll start to realize that it’s time to grow up and be in a serious relationship.
- Have a life outside of him. Some women make the mistake of being too available to men. This may feel like the right approach, but it can make you seem clingy and desperate. It’s a little annoying and makes him think he can have you whenever he wants without a serious commitment. Instead, you need to have a life outside of the relationship so you can show him that you’re not waiting around for him. This can inspire him to commit to you out of fear of losing you.
- Look your best. Sorry, but guys are shallow. I’m not condoning it, I’m just telling you how it is. A guy doesn’t want to commit to a woman who doesn’t try to take care of herself and look her best. This doesn’t mean over-do your makeup or wear fancy clothes, but you should make an effort to take care of yourself and try to look your best. Men will respond positively to this and start to see you as someone who’s worth the commitment.
- Make him feel needed. Most men drive their self-worth from being needed. They want to play the role of the hero and know that you need them. Obviously, there’s a fine line to walk when it comes to maintaining your independence, but making him feel like you need him around will activate his hero complex and make him more likely to commit to you.
- Give him a little freedom. Too many guys think that committing to a serious relationship means not having a life outside the relationship. Sometimes you have to show him that this won’t be the case. Encourage him to have a life outside of the relationship so he doesn’t feel like he’s on a short leash. Let him hang out with his friends and have fun without you. If he knows that commitment doesn’t mean giving up other aspects of his life, his worries will disappear and he’ll be more open to it.
- Keep commitment talk light. At a certain point in every relationship, it’s fine to start talking about commitment. Even men know this stage is inevitable. But you have to be more casual about it. You can’t make it seem like a life or death issue. Don’t set ultimatums and don’t pressure him into making a commitment. It might work in the short-term, but in the long run, it’s likely to backfire on you. When you talk to him about commitment, keep things light. Keep the conversation casual and maybe make a few jokes. More than anything, you have to get him to think about all of the positives that a serious relationship will bring. Instead of badgering him to commit, let him know that he has more to gain than to lose.
