How To Make Him Want You Bad In 8 Easy Steps

Men can be so hard to read. One minute they’re obsessed with you and the next minute they’re dodging your calls and avoiding you at all costs. It can be so frustrating when the guy that you really like seems to not be interested in you, but what if I told you there were ways to change his mind? While you’re too incredible to ever chase someone who doesn’t recognize your worth, here are a few easy steps that you can take to make a guy want you bad.

  1. Be a little mysterious. There’s just something about a woman who carries a bit of mystery with her. It can be extremely enticing to men when women leave things to the imagination. Guys tend to be more interested in women when they’re always curious about what they’re up to and what they do in their free time. Don’t offer up information so willingly like where you go on the weekends and what you do for work. Chances are that he’ll start to wonder and wonder what you’re all about to the point where he’ll be dying to take you out just so that he can learn a little more about you.
  2. Play hard to get. Men love the chase. They love the idea of winning over a woman that seems unattainable. It can be so hard to play hard to get when you really like someone, but I promise you that it will be so worth it when he starts blowing up your phone because he wants you so badly. The key is to find a balance between acting aloof but not acting uninterested. Let him be the first one to contact you and take your sweet time responding but don’t just ignore him. If you play too hard to get, he might just think you don’t like him and give up or move on.
  3. Be confident. When trying to gain a guy’s affection, it’s so important to carry yourself as the amazing woman that you are. You have to be confident in yourself if you want him to see all of your awesome qualities. Walk with your head held high, banish your insecurities, and show yourself the love and appreciation that you deserve. Those qualities will shine through you and you’ll be seen as the beautiful, intelligent, kind woman that you are.
  4. Set boundaries. It’s very important to set proper boundaries that you’re comfortable with when you first get involved with a guy. People treat us the way we accept being treated, and when you set clear boundaries for a man such as not answering your phone after a certain hour or not allowing him to speak to you a certain way, he’ll want you so much more because your power and confidence will intrigue him. Not only will this make you more desirable but it will also allow you to weed out any men that wouldn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
  5. Be yourself. This one seems pretty obvious but I’m sure we’ve all had an experience where we’ve tried to change ourselves a little bit to fit some guy’s idea of the perfect woman. You shouldn’t have to change yourself to make yourself loveable to someone. If he doesn’t like you the way that you are, he’s not the right person for you. If you’re secure in who you are as a person and are unapologetic in the way you carry yourself, it says to a guy, “Here I am, take me or leave me.” I promise you that the right guys will want you that much more because they’ll be attracted to your sincerity.
  6. Have an easy-going mindset. We all know that desperation and neediness are unattractive qualities. We don’t like it when men are clingy or needy with us, so we know that they’re not going to want us as much if we act that way towards them. If you have a generally easy-going mindset when it comes to your relationship with him, he’s going to feel more relaxed around you and want you more. Try not to be so obsessive about when he calls and texts you and how often you go on dates. Just trust the fact that he likes you and will always find a way to call you or see you if that’s what he wants.
  7. Be a take-charge gal. Men tend to be really intrigued by powerful women who aren’t afraid to take the reins. We know that we’re strong and decisive but when it comes to trying to impress a guy, we sometimes tend to shrink ourselves and let them make all the decisions and the plans. It’s as if we think we’ll be more attractive to them if we don’t voice our opinion but the reality is that men like women who are vocal about what they want and can make up their minds. If he asks you where you want to go for dinner and you know what you want, don’t let him pick – tell him what you think. He asked for your opinion so just trust that he cares about what you want and wants you to decide. Don’t be afraid to speak up.
  8. Be vocal about your passions. We all love passionate people. One of the most attractive qualities a person can have is a zest for life and an excitement for things that they love. Don’t be afraid to tell him all about the things your passionate about, the goals you have for your future, and things you’re working towards. He’ll see your ambition and your spark and he’ll want you even more because you’ll show him what a fun and adventurous person you are.
Shelby is a journalist and fiction writer raised in the South but built for the big city. She's a book nerd (well, an overall nerd, honestly) and coffee addict and obsessed with all things leather and lacy.

She has a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication and Media Studies from Sam Houston State University and worked for her university newspaper, The Houstonian, as well as serving as a producer and part-time entertainment anchor for Cable 7 Huntsville. You can follow her on Twitter @shelby777.