How To Make Your Ex Miss You: 10 Ways to Make Them Wish They Never Let You Go

One of the worst things about being broken up with is that it makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you. Chances are, there’s not. You’re a beautiful, strong force to be reckoned with and some guys are just too weak or insecure to handle all of your amazing qualities. Retaliation can be extreme, but there’s nothing wrong with a little safe revenge. Here’s how you can show that stupid ex of yours that leaving you was the worst mistake of his life, he’ll be begging for you to take him back. (Spoiler alert: you won’t.)

  1. Don’t react. Obviously you’re going to react when it first happens but once it’s over and he’s gone, don’t give him a public reaction because it won’t do anything except boost his ego. Don’t post about the breakup on social media, don’t make a big deal about it to your girlfriends so that word gets around, and definitely don’t drunk text him anything. Don’t give him the reaction he’s after. This will definitely cause him to wonder if he made the right decision in ending your relationship.
  2. Fake it til’ you make it. I know it’s hard when you first go through a breakup and you just want to lie in bed, cry, and binge eat ice cream while watching Netflix, but you have to present a different front when you’re out and about in the world. You’re still entitled to feel whatever it is that you’re feeling, but I promise you that the more you tell yourself that you’ll be okay, the quicker you’ll start to feel okay again. The happier you appear, the more attractive you’ll feel and your ex will wonder how you were able to get over him so quickly and suddenly start rethinking his mistakes.
  3. Thrive all day, every day. The best kind of revenge is living your best life and showing the world just what that life looks like. Who cares who he’s dating or hooking up with? Who cares what he’s doing with his free time? You’re not worried about it. You’re too busy dominating every day and becoming the best version of yourself that you’ve ever been. Now that you’re single you have the time to spend so much attention on yourself and go after whatever you want. You’ll be doing so well, he’ll be kicking himself for letting a gem like you go. Lean into it, girl!
  4. Erase any trace of him from your social media. It’s a simple act but it can send such a strong message. If your ex decides to scope out your social media to see what you’re up to (and you know he will) and he sees a bunch of old pictures and lovey-dovey posts about your former happy relationship together, he’s going to think that you’re still heartbroken and devastated over your separation. Prove him wrong! Show him just how over him you are by deleting every picture of him you possess and making yourself look totally single across the internet. If your ex sees that you’re trying to rid him from your memory completely, he’ll feel instant jealousy. Men love what they can’t have.
  5. If he contacts you, make him wait. If he has the audacity to try to text or call you to “check-in” or whatever lame excuse he has, take your sweet time giving him a response if you choose to respond at all. If he texts, make him sweat it out for a few days. If he calls, ignore it at first then wait a while before you hit him back. The thing is, if you immediately respond, he’s going to assume that you’re just waiting by your phone, hoping that he’ll call you and want to take you back. You are worth so much more than some loser who only wants you when you’re desperate and insecure because it makes him feel like the man. You might even get a double text from him. Not only will this make him jealous but it will also make you feel amazing! Bonus!
  6. Go out and celebrate. Go out and celebrate the fact that you’re free from someone who never deserved you or appreciated you. Having fun with the people in your life who do actually love you and appreciate is sometimes the best medicine for heartbreak. Go to restaurants, bars, weekend getaways with your girls, and just live it up! Word and pictures of all of your escapades will get out soon and your ex will be green with envy because you’ll be the life of the party.
  7. Work on becoming the most confident version of yourself. You don’t need to change a thing about yourself if you don’t want to. However, sometimes, doing work on ourselves when we’ve experienced emotional blowback can help us heal and grow into stronger, even more amazing women. When you’re confident, you feel more capable to take on the world and anything life throws at you. So, do whatever it takes to get yourself feeling incredible. Hit up the gym more than usual, change up your hair, start wearing more daring outfits, whatever feels good, do that! Your ex will be dumbfounded that he ever let go of you.
  8. Don’t be afraid to date again. We all know that nothing makes an ex more jealous than seeing someone they’ve dated move on with someone else, someone better. Take your time with this one. Don’t push yourself to get back out there before you’re ready but once you are, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and go out with someone new! Not only will this drive your ex crazy but you just might meet someone that makes your heart beat faster than your ex ever did. There are still good guys out there.
  9. Embrace the goodness in your life. It can be hard when you’re hurting but even though your relationship is over, there is still so much goodness in your life. Think of all the people who love you and all of the things in your life that you love. Embrace the things that make you happy outside of a romantic relationship and express your gratitude for those things every day. You’ll start to quickly exude more joy and positivity and that is one of the most attractive things about a person. Your energy. Your ex will see you so happy and will instantly start to question his decision to break up with you.
  10. Remember who you are. All fun and games aside, the most important thing for you to remember is that this guy is crazy to break up with you. He clearly doesn’t see you for who you truly are and you are so much better off without him. No matter how you feel right now, you have to keep this thought in the back of your head. It will help you to move on and feel better and better every day. If you’re genuinely happy and over your ex, you won’t have to fake anything and that is probably the thing that will make him the most jealous of all.
Shelby is a journalist and fiction writer raised in the South but built for the big city. She's a book nerd (well, an overall nerd, honestly) and coffee addict and obsessed with all things leather and lacy.

She has a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication and Media Studies from Sam Houston State University and worked for her university newspaper, The Houstonian, as well as serving as a producer and part-time entertainment anchor for Cable 7 Huntsville. You can follow her on Twitter @shelby777.