How To Tell If A Guy You Work With Is Into You Romantically

Dating someone you work with can be a little dangerous. If it’s against company policy, the two of you may be risking your jobs. Even if it’s kosher with the bosses, it can get pretty awkward if things go wrong. Crushing on a colleague isn’t all that uncommon, however, but here’s how you know the guy you work with is interested in you romantically too.

  1. He asks you personal questions about your life. This is also a great way to develop a friendship, which can later turn into something more. A guy who has no interest in you will perhaps nod or wave when you come into work that day, whereas a guy who wants to get to know you better asks about your weekend or tells you jokes. He follows up on stories that happened that past Friday. He’s not just wasting time before starting his day. Instead, he’s getting to know you better.
  2. He stops and gets you a coffee before work. This is just a sweet gesture to show he’s been thinking about you. Even better, it’s innocent. He may be testing the waters himself. But even if you just think of him as a friend or a colleague, buying a morning beverage isn’t crossing any type of line. Instead, he’s showing that he’s thoughtful. This guy gets extra points if he manages to get your coffee preference right.
  3. He never talks about a girlfriend but often questions your availability. If he finds out you’re single and starts talking to you more, that’s a big sign. As for him, he doesn’t talk much about girls and relationships. If another coworker brings it up, he may get quiet or blush. But, he’s not telling you about visiting his girlfriend’s parents or planning a trip with a significant other. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s single, but it’s a good indicator that he’s interested. Asking him straight up would solve the question for sure.
  4. You actually follow each other on social media. It can be strange to follow coworkers on any site that’s not LinkedIn. But for this guy, you made an exception. Not only have you commented on each other’s photos and posts after work but you’ve probably gotten to know each other on more of a personal level thanks to it. If he’s at a stage where he openly talks about things you posted, it’s a good reason to believe that he sought your profile out and looked at pictures individually at least more than once.
  5. He’s told you that you make work more fun. It’s really great to connect with someone at work. So if he’s told you that you improve his day or seems sad and concerned if you call out sick, he likes you. You’ve become part of his day and routine and it’s possible that you’re the one bright spot about going to work every day. Keep in mind, the dynamic might change if you officially start dating. Still, this is an enjoyable and fun part of the courtship. From here, you might want to ask him if he’s free this weekend.
  6. People have commented on your connection. Others in the office have picked up on the fact that you’re close work friends (or at the very least allies). They may have also begun pushing the two of you to take the relationship further. While that stage is completely up to you, it’s a good thing if others are picking up on the chemistry. That means that you’re not picking up the wrong cues.
  7. The two of you have briefly talked about future goals before. If you’re around the same age, you probably have a lot on your mind. And before dating or becoming official, it’s possible the two of you talked about marriage and children, just not with each other yet. This is how he’s figuring out if the two of you have compatible future goals. If you’re set on being childfree and he really wants to have a few children, this is a safe time for him to back away and not get too attached. Outside of dating, it’s just an innocent conversation. Mentally, he’s keeping tabs on your responses back.
  8. He’s (jokingly) mocked an ex of yours. If he’s happened to either meet or hear about an ex, his commentary isn’t the kindest. He’s trying hard to boost you up and remind you that you can do better. Also, it’s an easy target for him. Secretly, he’s hoping you don’t get back together with this guy, so his comments hold a little more weight in his eyes.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.