How To Tell Whether He’s Feeling The Same Connection As You Are

You’ve met an amazing guy, you’re really enjoying getting to know him, and you want to see where it goes. You think you’ve got the spark that we all seek in a potential partner but you’re worried that he doesn’t feel the same way. After all, how are you supposed to know? Well, I’ll tell you.

  1. You can talk to each other about anything and everything. You know you have a connection with someone (male or female) when you can talk to that person about anything and everything that pops into your head. From what you had for lunch to what you think is the true meaning of life, you guys could chat for hours and still have tons of stuff to say. If the conversation is fun, interesting, and you never run out of material to discuss, then you’re onto a winning relationship, my friend.
  2. You make each other laugh. As well as talking, you guys are always laughing. You find him funny just as much as he does you and as a result, your banter is on point. In fact, he’s often in hysterics at things you do that you didn’t intend to be funny and vice versa. Either way, you’re both smiling like hyenas in each other’s presence and clearly enjoying each other’s company.
  3. You constantly flirt with each other. I’m not just talking about one-sided flirting either—I’m talking about fluttering eyelashes on your part just as much as I’m talking about him finding any excuse to touch your arm. Your body language is always open when you’re together, i.e. no crossed arms, and you find it easy to be in each other’s presence.
  4. You’re both shy when you first see each other. You can tell that he’s just as apprehensive as you when you haven’t seen each other in a little while and you’re back together again. You both stumble over your words, there’s nervous laughter, and being in his presence makes you feel like a giggling schoolgirl circa 1995 instead of an independent woman circa 2019. Eek.
  5. He makes the effort when you’re apart. When you’re not together, there’s no sitting there and wondering where on God’s green earth did he disappear to and why he hasn’t called you yet (even though your last date was three days ago). In fact, the situation is quite the opposite. He’s always popping up on WhatsApp or social media and checking in on you—and that’s how you know that he’s just as invested in the relationship as you are.
  6. He asks you on another date before you get the chance to ask him. Similarly, before you’ve even had the opportunity to think about when you’d like to see him again, he’s mentioned another meet-up or asked you if you’ll see him on a certain date. Let’s be real for a sec, girl—if he didn’t feel the same way about you then he’d be distancing himself from you or let you do all the chasing. If he’s being pretty upfront with his desires to talk to you and see you often, this is ultimately a good sign.
  7. There’s an obvious spark. If you’re both into each other, it’ll be rather apparent. I mean, let’s just say that you won’t be acting like friends. You’ll be only too happy to hold each other’s hands, cuddle up to each other, and kiss each other goodnight at the end of the evening. Basically, any contact will feel electric.
  8. Other people can spot your chemistryAnother way you can tell that he’s feeling the connection just as much as you are is if outside sources start telling you how compatible you are. Sometimes in life, only people outside of the situation that you’re in can offer you a bit of perspective. If friends or family members who have been around you both say that it’s the real deal then it usually is. True story.
  9. He’s not rushing into the physical stuff. Finally, you know that a guy really likes you if he’s not rushing you into anything physical. Let’s face it—if he just wanted to use you as a sex object, he would. Or he would have tried it on at least once by now. However, if he’s more interested in getting to know you outside of the bedroom and hasn’t even mentioned any hanky panky then you know that he’s totally into you on a serious level—and that’s a pretty nice situation to be in.
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at