It can be incredibly hard not to shoot down positive things people have to say about you, especially when you suffer from a lack of self-esteem. However, just because you don’t believe the nice opinions people have about you doesn’t make them untrue, and it’s time you realize that. Here’s how to accept compliments for once instead of rejecting them outright.
Take a few seconds before responding.
Instead of shutting down the compliment the minute it drops from the other person’s mouth, take a few deep breaths before responding. Doing this allows you to actually let what’s being said sink in instead of rejecting it outright. You may actually hear the crux of what the person is saying and realize that they’re actually right. Fancy that!
Say “thank you” instead of rejecting what the person said.
One of the best ways to accept compliments is to just, you know, accept them. When someone tells you that your hair looks amazing, that you’re really smart, that the dress you’re wearing really suits you, simply say “thank you.” It really is that simple. You don’t have to tell them that they’re wrong, that what they said is untrue, or belittle yourself in any way. Just show appreciation and end it there.
Offer a genuine compliment in return.
While complimenting this person in return won’t help you accept compliments, it will help change your perspective on them. When you offer someone a bit of genuine praise, you realize that everyone has qualities that are worth noticing and commending, which can help you accept that the same applies to you. It’s worth a shot anyway, right?
Do a little self-reflection.
One of the most important things you need in this situation and in life in general is a strong sense of self-worth. It’s important that you recognize that you’re worthy of love, that you have a lot to offer the world, and you feel confident in that. When you believe that about yourself, accepting compliments will become a breeze.
Celebrate your positive qualities.
You have so many of them, so why are you constantly ignoring them, denying them, or talking them down? You’re incredible, so start accepting it.