How To Be Happy Single And Stop Needing A Relationship

You know that life doesn’t revolve around romantic relationships and that you don’t need a man in your life to thrive, but that doesn’t stop you from wanting love in your life. Hey, it’s human nature! While it will likely come to you one day, that doesn’t mean your life should stop in the meantime. Here’s how to be happy single and find joy in the experience. Trust me, it’s easier than you’d think.

  1. As corny as it sounds, “date” yourself. If the idea of taking yourself out to dinner and a movie seems foreign to you, that’s all the more reason to do it! You might not be happy about it at first, but the more you date yourself, the more you’ll learn to love it. After all, just because you’re single, it doesn’t have to mean your life has to lack romance. Do all the things for yourself that you’d want a guy to do and it will definitely improve your mood.
  2. Consider all the benefits of being single. Now here’s something to be happy about! Scientifically speaking, there are many benefits to being single from enhanced psychological growth, more openness to what life throws your way, and a better relationship with yourself among other things. While you’re on your own, you’re doing your mind and body good.
  3. Form deeper platonic connections. Since all of your time and energy isn’t being siphoned into a romantic relationship, why not spend your spare time developing deeper connections with your friends and family members? After all, love comes and goes, but the connections you form with your family and your chosen family will always be with you. Use this time to really strengthen those bonds and enjoy your time together. It will enrich your life in incredible ways.
  4. Set goals and go after them. You know there’s more to life than love, so what are you doing to go after it? If there’s something you want to achieve in your career or in one of your hobbies or side hustles, why not set the bar high and go for it? You’re capable of achieving so much if you set your mind to it and work hard, so go for it!
  5. Focus on self-care. We hear a lot about self-care these days but a lot of us still aren’t spending enough time on it. What self-care entails will change from person to person. Maybe for you it’s taking a bubble bath every night and spending an hour reading before bed. Maybe it means going for a massage and hitting the gym for an hour every day. Whatever it is that makes you feel healthy and connected to yourself, go for it.
  6. Find a new hobby and get into it. What will you do with all this spare time since you’re single? Find something that makes you happy. Maybe you always wanted to take pottery classes or you’ve always wished you could speak French. Find a new passion and pursue it. This will not only give you something to do during your downtime, but it’ll also stimulate your mind and body and make you a more well-rounded person.
  7. Realize that singlehood probably isn’t forever. At the end of the day, you probably won’t be single forever. That’s why it’s so important to find joy and be happy in the now. You’ll miss this time when it’s gone!
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill