I’m not saying you’re a bad partner – I’m sure you’re not. However, if you want to be the best girlfriend he’s ever had, you’re going to have to step up your game. Doing these things doesn’t necessarily require much extra effort if you’re already pretty attentive to your boyfriend’s needs. In fact, you’re probably already doing many of them anyway. That being said, a woman who does these things is guaranteed to be unforgettable in her partner’s mind pretty much forever.
Do your part to keep the spark.
The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever and that’s a good thing. However, part of keeping your relationship strong and thriving is by maintaining the spark. Contrary to popular belief, this isn’t the guy’s job. Both of you should be putting in equal effort to keep the passion and romance alive between you. Sure, real life takes over sometimes, but make sure you’re doing your bit by planning dates, initiating sex, and showing your partner physical affection.
Listen to him.
Don’t immediately jump down his throat when he does something that you don’t understand or don’t like. Don’t automatically assume the worst of him or point the finger at him when something goes wrong. Instead, actually listen to him. Just zip your lips, sit back, and let him speak. You know how important it is for you to feel heard, so offer him the same courtesy.
Validate even his craziest feelings or ideas.
Maybe you and your boyfriend are two totally different people, and that’s cool. However, that means sometimes he might have different desires, goals, or viewpoints than you and they’re so out there that you just don’t get them. Never invalidate his feelings or ideas. Instead, make sure he knows that your relationship is a safe space to share them and that even if you don’t agree or understand them, you support his right to them nonetheless.
Give him space.
Most guys need more space than women in relationships and that can be hard to deal with, especially if you’d be cool hanging out 24/7. Being the best girlfriend he’s ever had or ever will have means backing off a bit and giving him a little room to breathe away from you. Whether it’s going out with his friends or sitting in front of the TV on his PS5 for hours, let him be free to do that without making him feel guilty or pressured to be with you instead.
Have a life outside of your relationship.
This is as much for you as it is for him. Your relationship should never be your entire life. It’s important that you don’t need your boyfriend but you simply want him to make your already complete life even better. Make sure you’re still hanging out with your friends, seeing your family, pursuing your goals and hobbies, and spending time on self-care. Your relationship will be better for it.
Encourage him to be his best self but never push him to change.
The best girlfriend he’s ever had is always going to be the one who encourages him to be the best version of himself but doesn’t pressure him or manipulate him into changing. You should be his biggest cheerleader, not a puppet master desperately trying to pull the strings of his life.
Love him where he’s at.
Don’t ever get with a guy because of his potential because you’ll end up feeling disappointed and he’ll end up resenting you. Instead, the best girlfriend knows that she needs to love her partner where he’s at right now, flaws and all. After all, it’s our imperfections that make us endearingly human, don’t you think?
Make him laugh. Simple but effective.
Sometimes life is going to throw some real curveballs your way and the only way you’re going to get through it is by learning how to laugh at yourselves, each other, and the the terrible condition of life sometimes. Find little ways to bring a smile to his face and he’ll love you all the more efor it.
Don’t take him for granted.
No one likes to feel unappreciated, and that goes for men too. Never simply expect him to do things for you just because he always has. Recognize the small efforts he makes on a daily basis to make your life a better, easier place and show appreciation for it.
Show him you love him as well as telling him.
You should by all means vocalize your love for your boyfriend, but you should show it as well. How do you do that? Well, by doing all the things listed above. They’ll undoubtedly make you the best girlfriend ever.