How to Clap Back When Someone Throw Shade and Puts You Down

How to Clap Back When Someone Throw Shade and Puts You Down

When someone takes a cheap shot at you or throws shade, you don’t have to let their words hit home. Here are 15 sharp responses to clap back when anyone puts you down so you can stand your ground and make them regret their words.

1. “Wow, someone’s projecting today.”

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This response makes it clear that their comment says way more about them than it does about you. Labeling their behavior as “projection” lets them know you’re onto their game—and not interested.

2. “I didn’t know you were auditioning for a reality show.”

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Call out the drama. This is a sharp, witty response that makes their pettiness look ridiculous. You’re putting them on blast without losing your cool.

3. “You should really work on your delivery.”

Call out how poorly they delivered their insult. You’re not just brushing it off, you’re showing them their words lacked impact, and maybe even suggesting they step up their game if they want to be taken seriously.

4. “That’s an interesting opinion.”

Hit them with a backhanded compliment right back. You acknowledge, but let them know it doesn’t hold any weight. It’s a bold way to turn their insult into a joke—at their expense.

5. “I’m sorry, was that supposed to be clever?”

Flip the insult right back by calling out how unimpressive it was. You’re dismissing their attempt to get under your skin and making them question their wit—or lack thereof.

6. “Is that the best you’ve got?”

Challenge them. You’re not just brushing off the insult; you’re daring them to come up with something better. It shifts the power back to you and shows you’re completely unfazed.

7. “I didn’t realize we were still doing middle school insults.”

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A subtle dig that calls out their immaturity without raising your voice. You’re keeping things classy but pointing out how childish their comment really was.

8. “I prefer not to waste my energy with a response.”

This one’s smooth, cutting, and tells them you’re above their nonsense. You’re shutting down the conversation before it starts and making it clear that their words don’t deserve your time.

9. “That’s cute. You almost sounded confident.”

Sarcasm at its finest. You’re pointing out their insecurity without directly saying it. It’s a clever way to mock their insult while keeping the upper hand.

10. “Keep talking; you might say something intelligent.”

Turn their words into a challenge and make them realize they’re not as smart as they think. It’s like saying, “I’m waiting for something worthwhile,” while completely disregarding their attempt to put you down.

11. “That’s some impressive bitterness you’ve got going on.”

Recognize their negativity for what it is—bitterness. This response clarifies that we’re not affected by their insult and throws it back at them with a little sting.

12. “If you’re trying to drag me to your level, it’s not working.”

You’re refusing to engage in their negativity and making it clear that you’re above their pettiness. This response asserts your boundaries and leaves them nowhere to go.

13. “Ouch, that was almost as painful as watching you try so hard.”

Mock their attempt at being hurtful by pointing out the effort they’re putting into it. It’s dismissive in the most effective way—showing them their words barely made a dent.

14. “I’m not sure who hurt you, but I’m not going to be the one to fix it.”

Hit them with a reality check. You’re acknowledging that their behavior comes from a place of hurt but making it clear that you’re not playing the role of therapist today. It’s a classy way to distance yourself from their negativity.

15. “That’s one way to say you’re intimidated by me.”

Turn their insult into a sign of their insecurity. This response flips the situation entirely, implying that their put-down reflects how much your confidence threatens them.

Natasha is a seasoned lifestyle journalist and editor based in New York City. Originally from Sydney, during a a stellar two-decade career, she has reported on the latest lifestyle news and trends for major media brands including Elle and Grazia.