How To Compliment A Guy You Met Through Online Dating

You’re scrolling through your dating app when all of a sudden, one dude catches your eye. His profile is nice, he likes cats (or whatever your favorite animal is), and he has a good job. Plus, he seems like a funny and genuine guy. So what do you say to him? How do you get his attention? Here’s how to compliment a guy on an online dating app.

  1. Look at his profile. No, I actually mean it– read through his entire profile. Tons of people don’t even bother to read the whole thing, and they end up missing a genuine connection with that person. If you want to give him a good compliment, read his profile first. That’s your best chance at learning anything about him.
  2. Find a common ground. Once you read his profile and look through all his pictures, see if you can find some common ground. Maybe you both own cats, or you listen to the same music groups. Then, use this common ground to help break the ice. “I love your taste in music!” is 100 times better than “hey :).” The more personal, the better. This could also lead into asking them if they want to hang out sometime, i. e. “I’m a huge Clippers fan too! Maybe we could hang out sometime and watch a game.”
  3. Compliment his interests. If you find someone who enjoys something way out of the ordinary, compliment his tastes! Everyone likes to be complimented on things that they enjoy doing. For example, if he’s into skydiving, tell him how brave he must be to enjoy skydiving. If he’s a writer, compliment how he wrote his bio. And on and on. Complimenting him on his hobbies and interests is a great way to show that you’re interested in him and you want to learn more. (This is especially true if you have any in common!)
  4. Mention how he caught your eye. We all know how these dating apps work, right? You’re scrolling through tons of profiles, and after a while, they all start to sound the same. Funny, romantic, loves the outdoors… that could be any one of the 100s of guys you’ve looked at so far. When you find a guy who you’re genuinely interested in talking with, try to let him know that he stood out to you. You’re not sending him the same copy-and-paste message that he’s seen a trillion times already. So mention how he caught your eye. “Hey, I saw that you like philosophy, and that really caught my eye. That’s so unique! How did you get into that?”
  5. Point out his personality. This is a big one! If you’re trying to compliment someone on a dating app, you want to go with something personalized. Anyone can have gorgeous eyes, but not everyone can show their personality through their bio. Let’s say his bio is funny and made you smile, or even laugh out loud. Point it out to him! “I love how you show your personality in your bio– you’re so funny!” Or maybe his bio is very thoughtful, almost a bit poetic. You could message him and say, “You seem like such a thoughtful person, I can really tell you spent time writing your bio. I’d love to get to know you!”
  6. Compliment his style. Yes, guys like to be complimented on their fashion sense too. Compliment him on his clothes, or tell him that he looks good in red. This can make you seem refreshing. Just make sure not to sound like some sort of stalker creepy person, like “hey, your jeans look very nice and slim.” That’s weird. But if a dude has some good fashion sense, don’t be afraid to tell him so! You can always make it sound a little more natural by following up with a question: “I love your sense of style! Especially that flannel in the first pic. Do you remember where you got it from? I might have to go buy one myself!”
  7. Add a quick compliment about his eyes. When it comes to complimenting a guy’s physical appearance, you don’t want to sound the same as everyone else in his inbox. You know how annoying it is when you get six trillion messages saying, “hey gorgeous” with a little smiley face? Yeah. Be the person who mixes it up. One way to do this is by complimenting their eyes: “You have the most gorgeous brown eyes I’ve ever seen.”
  8. Keep it short. Last but not least, make sure to keep your compliment short. You’ll sound weird if you send an entire paragraph about his beautiful eyes. Keep your compliment to one or two short sentences, and leave it at that. If he appreciates it and wants to keep talking, he will let you know. Good luck with your dating adventures!
  9. Make sure you’re being genuine. It should go without saying that you shouldn’t throw compliments his way that you don’t mean. Saying something nice just for the sake of it despite it being insincere is a big no-no and it’s likely he’ll see through you. If you don’t know him well enough to compliment him yet, take the time to delve into who he is and what he’s about. When you hear something you like and that seems noteworthy, mention that. It will mean that much more when it’s authentic.

Lauryn is a writer and blogger who hails from California. She loves big dogs, fuzzy blankets, and hot cheetos.