How To Cope With Unrequited Love

How To Cope With Unrequited Love ©iStock/a-wrangler

There’s nothing worse than loving someone who doesn’t love you back. Sometimes it happens before we ever even get involved with that guy, but sometimes it happens when we’ve been seeing him for awhile and he realizes he doesn’t feel the way about us that we feel about him. Either way, it blows. It’ll always sting, but there are some things you can do to make it hurt a little bit less.

  1. Cut him off. I know this is hard, but it’s necessary. If he’s any sort of a decent guy, he probably feels bad that he wasn’t as invested as you and he may try to placate you to make you feel better. In fact, that’ll only make things worse. Cut him off and do you both a favor.
  2. Delete any reminders. Delete his number, trash any photos, and get rid of anything else that makes you think of him. You need to cut him from your life, so just rip the band-aid off and move forward. You don’t need any reminders of unrequited love in your life.
  3. Keep dating. It may seem like you’ll never love again or find someone to love you back, but that’s simply not true! You need to keep dating and not miss out on love just because this guy didn’t realize what an awesome woman he had in front of him
  4. Find a new hobby. You need to stay busy. Idle hours will give you too much time to think about him, and that’s a waste of time! Find something you love, and you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel.
  5. Spend more time with the girls. The girls love you no matter what, so spend some more time with them and remind yourself what it’s like to be loved. I know they aren’t him, but being loved is an awesome feeling even if it’s from your ladies and not from a man.
  6. Get a pet. Animals love you unconditionally and will distract you from that loser for a while. Pets need you to love them, and they’ll love you endlessly in return. Plus, if you rescue a dog or cat, you’ll feel like you did something really great, too!
  7. Get a makeover. When was the last time you changed your hair up or bought a new lipstick? Some small changes can make you feel like a new person — and can also make him sorry he missed out. Get a fresh cut and go find someone who deserves you.
  8. Commit to yourself. It’s true that in order to find someone else, you have to love yourself, first. Figure out what you need in your life to feel fulfilled and I bet you’ll stumble upon a great guy in the process.
  9. Go speed dating. It’s fun, it’s non-threatening, and you can bring friends! You’ll meet a whole bunch of guys in a short time, enjoy yourself and probably get a date. Speed dating events happen all over the place all the time. If you haven’t ever tried it, you need to! Even if you don’t meet someone, you’ll have a great story to tell.
  10. Apply for a new job. Maybe you need a total life overhaul. Apply for a new job, maybe in another field or another city. Work can consume us, and new places are exciting.
  11. Go on a vacation. Speaking of new places, spoil yourself and go on a (probably long overdue) vacay. Drink frilly drinks, flirt with the bartender, and enjoy every second of it. You deserve everything you want — don’t you forget that.
  12. Write it all down and throw it away. Hiding from this isn’t going to help, so go ahead and acknowledge your feelings. Write them down, then do some kind of ritual where you throw it out, tear it up, burn it — whatever. This symbolizes your relationship with him. It’s done and you need to get back out there.
  13. Cry it out, drink some wine, and vow to get over it. This is self-explanatory and may sound a bit harsh, but you really need to allow yourself to just move on. It’s his loss, even though you’re the one who feels like there is a hole in your heart.
  14. Tell yourself every day you deserve better. Every. Damn. Day.
C. is an aspiring yogi and Ph.D student who loves her dogs, bright lipstick and to travel. Find her on IG @drparko121314