The first few days after a breakup are always the worst. After the shock has worn off, you’re left with the reality that a relationship you might have thought was going to be forever is really over. They say time heals all wounds, and there’s a lot of truth to that. However, here’s how to cure a broken heart if you’re really struggling.

Face your emotions head-on. As much as it sucks, the fact remains that you can’t suppress your feelings forever and just expect them to disappear. It might work for a while, but you can be sure they’ll just come back with a vengeance later. Give yourself permission to be heartbroken. This will be easier to put it all behind you for real when you’re ready.

Recognize that the breakup was the best thing that could have happened. That feeling of relief you get about the relationship being over? That’s a big deal. The worst thing you could possibly do is choose to only remember the great parts of the relationship, and completely disregard the parts that were making you miserable. The moment you can think about the break up and be proud you went through with it is the first step towards a new life.

Reconnect with your friends. No one is saying you completely ditched all your friends while you were in a relationship, but seeing them less is an inevitable side effect of having a boyfriend, good or bad. Now that you’re single, there’s nothing stopping you from spending every spare moment with the friends who love you.

Take a trip to a location you’ve always wanted to visit. Picture it — you’re on a beach sipping a pina colada, reading an entire book in one day without your ex ever crossing your mind. Or, maybe you can finally embark on that backpacking trip across Europe you dreamed about when you were in high school. It’s never too late to see the world, and doing so will give you some perspective you desperately need at the moment.

Have a night out on the town. You probably became a bit of a homebody while you had a boyfriend. It’s okay, we all do it. But now’s the perfect time to dust off those stilettos, dress up, and hit the town. Don’t forget to flirt shamelessly.

Go after the hottest rebound you can get your hands on. It’s actually scientifically impossible to think about your ex while you’re running your hands along the chiseled abs of the guy from your gym. There will be no better time to have no-strings-attached sex, so take advantage of it and enjoy your rebound. Just make sure never to try to turn this arrangement into a long-term relationship.

More ways to cure a broken heart

Try A little retail therapy. Will this really cure a broken heart? Probably not, but it will give you some temporary solace and boost your mood a bit, so it’s worth a shot. And no, online shopping doesn’t count. Get out of the house, try on everything, and buy something you never would have considered before. Treat yourself because you deserve it.

Change up your look. It’s generally advised not to make any impulsive changes immediately after a breakup. But I say, why the hell not? Sometimes a new, edgy haircut is just what you need to feel like a brand new person. Or, if you don’t want to cut your hair, dye it a new color. Do something that makes you feel like a brand new woman because you are one.

Make your health a priority. Now is the time to focus all your energy on yourself and your health. The fact that you’ll end up with the hottest body of your life in case you run into your ex is just a nice bonus. Get off the couch and use that gym membership you’ve been paying for all this time or even get outside for a jog. Not only that, but stop ordering DoorDash four times a week and actually cook yourself some food that’s nourishing to your body.

Take a class. Hobbies are a great way to distract yourself from pining after your ex. Not only will you learn something new, but you could meet new friends, and you’ll also be adding more to your own life rather than moping. There’s no better time for self-enrichment than after you end a relationship.

Get the journal out. If you’re desperately craving closure with your ex or you feel like you have unfinished business and they don’t agree, the best way to cure a broken heart is to start writing it out. Put down on paper all the things you wish you could say to your ex, all the feelings you’re having no matter how ridiculous they seem. You’ll feel a massive weight lift off your shoulders.

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