How To Deal With Haters Who Can’t Handle How Badass You Are

This world is filled with toxic people. One those types of people are haters. Sometimes, it’s just impossible to avoid them. They’re constantly there with something to say about what you do, how you dress, what you say, etc. They think they’re better than you despite the fact that their biggest accomplishment is hating nonstop. You may wonder what exactly caused this person to be the way they are or wish you could get to the root of their issues, but there’s just no reasoning with people like that. If there are haters in your life, this is how deal with them.

  1. Don’t take it personally. Most likely, when someone is seriously hating on you, there’s some underlying factor or reason behind it. Maybe they’re insecure and they’re projecting their negative emotions onto you, or maybe they just have an anger issue. Either way, don’t take it personally. Their problems with you are THEIR problems, not yours.
  2. Embrace the attention. If someone’s taking the time and energy to hate on you or what you do, then just embrace it. It really means that they just care enough to have an opinion and you should be flattered about that. It also means they have nothing going on in their own lives, or else they wouldn’t have time to worry about yours.
  3. Focus on the positives. Don’t let that negative energy get in the way of whatever you’re doing. Focus on the good. Pay attention to the positive things that are happening in your life rather than the people who are trying to tear you down. Just let the negativity roll right off your shoulders.
  4. Refrain from being an instigator. Don’t get heated and don’t fight back. It may be tempting, but don’t give into their comments or opinions. They want to get a rise out of you and they want you to argue with them. You don’t need to waste your time defending yourself if you are confident with who are you.
  5. Use their haterade as a fuel for your fire. If the world is against you, then you have a lot of people to prove wrong. Use whatever hatred or negativity they are throwing at you as power and turn it into something good. Use it as a catalyst to keep moving forward. Let haters be your motivators, as they say.
  6. Kill them with kindness. Martin Luther King said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light cannot do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.” It’s one of the truest statements ever made. If you’re being hated on, don’t hate back because it can turn into a vicious cycle. Just be kind and radiate love no matter what.
  7. Keep doing you. You shouldn’t let someone else’s perception of you affect how you’re living your life or stop you from chasing your dreams. Keep doing you. In the words of Abe Lincoln, “Whatever you are, be a good one.”
  8. Remember that good always triumphs over evil. It may be cliche to say, but good really does always triumph over evil. There’s a reason why people always root for the superhero rather than the villain. We need more good in this world, so don’t let the bad get to you.
  9. Know that what goes around comes around. Karma is real and she is a bitch. Whatever you put out into the universe will come back around. So, if you’re putting out positive vibes, it’ll eventually come back to you. Similarly, if someone is trying to hurt your or send out negative vibes, it will come back to them. Let the universe deal with that.
  10. Never give up. Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to approve of you or the things you do. But you can’t just give up because of it. There are always going to be people who are placed in your life as an obstacle. You must overcome them and for that, you’ll be a stronger person.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns