Sometimes men need to be told what they want in order to actually want it. It’s like a Lacanian ‘lack’ whereby you don’t realize what you’re missing until you see it for the first time. As such, there are certain ways in which we can remind the guys in our lives that if they haven’t locked us down, they’re still missing out. If we have to miss those fools then they should have to miss us just as much. It’s only fair, right? Here’s how to make a man miss you without much effort.
Go out without him. It’s simple maths, if you’re there and he isn’t, that’s going to make him think. Particularly if you go to the bar or club with the girls and have a blast. You get to let off steam and catch up with your friends, and at the same time, he has to sit alone and think about the fact that he’s alone. Maybe it seems childish, but you would never sit in your room in the quiet when you’re waiting for a guy to make a move. Sometimes you have to move him and make him realize how much he likes you. This is one of the easiest ways to get a man to miss you for sure.
Change up your hair or makeup. If you’re normally more of a “full face of makeup and a fancy outfit” in your day-to-day life or clubbing outfit, this could be a natural time to refresh the look. Don’t push the boat too far out of your comfort zone, though; it’s there for a reason. But it’s always fun to mix things up and get with the times to keep reinventing and refining yourself. If it feels like a performance you don’t have to commit too hard to the new era, but it can still be fun to try new things. It’s enriching, being able to check in with yourself and what you’re comfortable with. It’s a bit like changing your phone screen or watch strap. It makes things feel new again!
Experiment with your style. Maybe this isn’t enough to get your man’s attention. Perhaps a more drastic change is necessary – I’m thinking Sandy from Grease. You get the gist? Maybe you’re not down for the “giving up your principles for a guy” vibe, but showing him that you are flexible, adaptable, and capable of impressing everyone in a room is key. It’s not just a performance for him, but to show to him that other people are interested in you, and that you aren’t just ‘his’. Not by a long shot. You could incorporate new colors to your wardrobe, or different shoes, maybe a nostalgic element or raiding your friends’ closets. That’s what they’re for, communal wardrobes. Surprise the people in your life!
Give him the silent treatment. If he isn’t responding to your efforts to impress or engage him, maybe he needs space. Or you should ease off if you are not being reciprocated. Shutting off the source will give him the space to realize that he has taken you for granted. He will feel your absence and miss you all the more for it. When you do return, or when he reaches out, he will feel the benefit and value of your time in a way that he might not have before. It’s not a game, but people aren’t mind readers. They have to be told sometimes, and that’s okay. We’re human, after all.
Be playful. This can mean a variety of things, but mostly having a playful, comfortable relationship with each other where you can tease each other, right up to sexting and nudes. Sometimes you have to go old school and whip out the old faithful by showing your assets off. Whether this is your sparkling wit or amazing, confident physicality, show off what you’re proud of. Control the terms of the relationship and demonstrate to him what he’s missing.
Display open body language. Be engaging. Much as playing hard to get works, you do ultimately need to remind him that you are interested if he puts the effort in. Sometimes guys are nervous and need that reassurance, and frankly, for the relationship to be consensual, you need to show him that you want him too. There’s nothing more attractive than someone being attracted to you, after all.
Touch him. Not like that, get your head out of the gutter. Naturally incorporate touching his chest or knee when it feels appropriate. Don’t manhandle him or make him uncomfortable, but read the room and show him that you are interested. He will miss you like crazy when you leave.
So there you have it, a few suggestions and tips on how to get a man to miss you. Sometimes guys just need a little push.
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