How To Earn Good Dating Karma, Because You Really Don’t Need Any More Bad Luck

How To Earn Good Dating Karma, Because You Really Don’t Need Any More Bad Luck ©iStock/JohanJK

Sometimes it can seem like no matter how hard you try to find love, you’re continually left either underwhelmed or completely disappointed by the guys you’re dating. But if you believe that what goes around comes around, you’ll want to do everything you can to earn good dating karma, because it just might eventually lead you to Mr. Right.

  1. Don’t ghost — end your relationship like an adult. Ghosting can seem like the easy way out of a relationship, but if you don’t want it to happen to you, then don’t do it yourself. Tell him to his face, on the phone, or at least send him a text message. It’s really not that hard.
  2. Do your best to be a good wingwoman. It’s kind of thirsty to ask your friends to hook you up, so do your BFFs a solid and hook them up first. Take into consideration what they like and their personality and try to introduce them to someone you know who might be a good fit. You never know, you might be responsible for one of them getting married down the line!
  3. Don’t lie on your dating profile. It’s pretty common for people lie about stupid things on their dating profile, but you can’t really get mad at someone else doing it if you’re doing it, too. Keep your profile as honest as possible. If you don’t, then you’re just wasting your time along with your date’s.
  4. Don’t flake out on dates. Some people come up with lame excuses to cancel their plans since the date was their backup plan for the night, which is a-hole behavior. If you make plans, then you’d better have every intention of keeping them.
  5. Never be OK with being the other woman. Sometimes we’re genuinely fooled by someone who lied about being in a relationship, but if you do know the truth and went through with it anyway, then that’s really bad karma. Even if this affair leads to a relationship, you should remember that how you get someone is often how you lose them. What makes you think he won’t cheat on you in your relationship?
  6. If you want to be with someone else, end your current relationship first. In a perfect world, no one would cheat, but temptation happens and we’re not perfect. But there’s no excuse. If you know you’re not totally invested in your relationship and can’t stay faithful, then end things. It’s really that simple.
  7. Keep the mean gossiping to a minimum. Bad dates happen, and sometimes you’re the cause of it. If you would rather your bad dates not tell embarrassing stories about you, then give the same courtesy and do the same. It didn’t work out, and that’s fine. Leave it behind and move on.
  8. Stay clear of your exes. It’s truly unfair to still have a sexual or emotional relationship with your ex while dating new people. There’s a disadvantage to new people because of the emotional baggage there. If you’re not truly over your past relationship, then focus on moving on by yourself first, or you’re just wasting other people’s time and setting them up for failure.
  9. Truly wish your exes well, even if they were losers. It’s tough because we often like to think our exes can’t do better than us — that we’ll always be the one that got away for them — but you should want your ex to be happy so you can be happy, too. You don’t need to focus on the past.
  10. Be there for your friends, no matter what their dating situation is. If your friend is in a relationship, then you should be supportive of that and not jealous. If she’s single, then be supportive of that, too. You would want your friends to be there for you no matter what, so why should your friendship come with conditions?
Nicole Weaver is a staff writer for YourTango and regularly contributes to Hollywood, The Bolde, and Proud2BMe. She is a lover of all things entertainment meaning she spends most of her nights in New York binge watching television shows. Follow her on Twitter at @nikkibernice.