How To Figure Out If He Likes You As Much As He Says He Does

He tells you he’s into you and wants to date you, but are you sure you can believe him? If his actions don’t match up with his words, he’s lying. Here are 10 ways to tell if he likes you as much as he says so you can avoid wasting your time and make sure you’re investing it in someone who’s worthy of you.

  1. He does what he says. When he says he’ll call you during the week to plan a date for the weekend, does he do that? When he says he wants to be exclusive, does he change his relationship status on FB instead of giving you some silly excuse for why he wants to remain “single”?
  2. His body’s an open book. You want a guy who’s a little mysterious, but not when it comes to how he feels about you. If he tells you he likes you and he shows it by being affectionate when you’re out together as well as when you’re alone, that’s a good sign he’s really got the feels. His body language should show you how he feels, not just when no one else is around. Even if he’s not big on PDA, he should still have relaxed and good body language in your company.
  3. He makes you feel it. This is a sure sign that he’s serious about you! He gives you clear signs that he’s interested by being consistent, which then makes you feel that you can trust him. It’s a biggie. You should feel that you don’t have to worry about if/when he’s going to text or see you. A guy who likes you will make you feel that you can trust that he’s into you because he won’t leave you hanging.
  4. He’s taking charge of those introductions. A guy who wants you to be a part of his life is going to make it clear that you’re allowed access into his social circle. He’s not going to make silly excuses for why you shouldn’t meet his best mates or cousins. Once you guys are a bit more serious, he’ll be making those introductions happen without being shady.
  5. He’s committed in the rest of his life. He says he wants to be in a serious LTR with you, and his life shows that he’s in this state of mind. He’s not partying up a storm with a bunch of friends every weekend, getting drunk and acting like he’s a forever bachelor. Basically, if the rest of his life matches what he says he wants from you then that’s a good sign. If he can’t commit to anything, he won’t commit to you.
  6. He works hard to have you. A guy who’s sloppy and lazy about making you his girlfriend is not serious about you, so don’t even waste your time with him. When a guy steps up and shows you that he’s interested, such as by making date plans and getting to know you on a deep level, he’s putting in the miles to make you his.
  7. He doesn’t delay. When you’re into someone, you want to be with them right away. You don’t play games or risk someone else impressing them enough to take them away. If a guy’s really into you, he’s not going to waste his time. He’s going to move in quickly and show you he’s interested because he values you enough to know that you’re a catch.
  8. He doesn’t give you small bits of his life. If you feel like he can only ever see you on a Friday night and the rest of his schedule is off-limits, that’s a red flag that you’re not going to be a big part of his life. He’s trying to keep you on the side. A guy who’s really into you will make you a priority. That means you won’t feel like he’s throwing you crumbs.
  9. He’s got a good memory. It’s not enough that he looks like he’s interested in what you have to say. A guy who’s really into you will pay attention and remember what it is you said that you love doing on the weekend or what you’re allergic to. He’s paying attention because he’s really into you.
  10. He doesn’t let fear stand in his way. Yeah, he’s shy and introverted, but that won’t stop a guy from asking you out if he really likes you. No matter what his personality is, he’ll find a way to show you that he’s into you and wants to be with you if you’re someone he can’t be without.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.