How To Figure Out If Your Guy Friend Likes You Romantically

You’re just friends. How many times have you told your best girls that the guy you’re always hanging out with is just a platonic buddy? If it’s more times than you can count, then maybe they’re sensing that he has romantic feelings for you. Here are 10 signs to look out for that point to the same conclusion.

  1. He’s all about planning outings. Maybe your usual hit-the-clubs-every-second-weekend setup has started to change because he’s inviting you out a lot more than he used to and he’s always available when you’re down for a coffee before work. It’s even more of a hint that he’s got a crush if…
  2. He invites you to one-on-one hangout sessions. Does he regularly tell you he’d rather hang out with you alone instead of in a group? Hmmm. He wants to give you his undivided attention. This is even more telling if he’s inviting you to what seems like dates, like romantic dinners at his place.
  3. He’s moving closer. Now, maybe you’ve always been the type of friends to hug each other and stuff, but if that affection is happening more regularly, it’s worth noting, especially if those hugs feel like they last a whole lot longer than they used to or he seems to find any stupid reason to touch you.
  4. He’s setting up introductions. If you haven’t really met his friends or family members and now your friend is keen to make those introductions happen, it’s probably a sign that he’s keen for you to have more access to his life.
  5. He’s joking less. While you guys always have a fun time together and your belly hurts from all the laughing you do, it’s really telling if it seems like your friend has become a bit more serious. Maybe he wants to talk about real, deep issues instead of just fooling around all the time. He’s showing you that he wants to explore other parts of your bond.
  6. He mentions dating. If a guy starts to joke around with you about you guys dating, it could be his way of testing the waters to see how you’ll react. If you laugh it off and say, “That would be such a bad idea,” then he’ll know that you’re not interested so he doesn’t have to waste his time.
  7. He doesn’t talk about dating others. If he used to talk about the women he was seeing and he used to ask you about guys on your dating horizon, but now you never speak about your romantic lives, that’s a sign that it feels weird for him. Things have changed! It makes sense because you wouldn’t want to talk about other people when you’re with the person you have your heart set on.
  8. He’s showing jealousy. Linked to the above point is if the guy shows you that he’s jealous when you mention some other guy you were casually dating. But he might not show you he’s jealous in such a blatant way out of pride, so look out for other signs that he’s experiencing jealousy, such as if he cracks a sarcastic comment about the guy or asks you tons of questions to find out what you really think of him.
  9. He treats you differently. You know what they say: you can always tell if a guy’s into you by how he treats you when you’re around other people. Your friend’s crushing on you if it feels like when you’re out in public together you’re in your own world together. Maybe you’re always sitting next to each other and sharing inside jokes that no one else understands, or you find that he’s always catching your eye from across the room and giving you flirtatious grins. Juicy!
  10. He steals glances at you. You’re hanging out with your mutual friends when you turn to the side and see your friend staring at you. OMG. If this happens often, it’s a sign he’s so attracted to you that he can’t seem to look away, even when you catch him in the act. He might also seem to zoom into your face with his eyes, like focusing on your lips while you’re talking and looking like he’s in a daze. The guy’s got it bad.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.