When you’ve been single for a long time and can’t seem to get a date to save your life, it can start to feel like finding love is never going to happen. That’s not true – it totally will! However, it will require a bit of effort on your part. If you’re sick of not having a plus-one and really want to couple up, here’s how to find a boyfriend so you can embark on relationship bliss.
- Change out of sweatpants and leave the house sometimes. Over the past 18 months or so, it’s become way too easy to default to leisurewear and Uber Eats on a Saturday night. The thought of having to shower, dry your hair, put makeup on, and wear uncomfortable clothes — and that’s before even leaving your apartment — isn’t all that appealing. However, if you want to find a boyfriend, you’re going to have to venture outside the four walls of your humble abode and actually go where other single people are.
- Develop and show off your confidence. Confidence is everything not just in love, but in life in general. You need to be secure in your self-worth and feel good about presenting that to the world around you. Whatever you believe you’re lacking, however you believe you fall short, stop. You’re an amazing woman with so much to offer. Feel strong in that knowledge and show it off – it will help you exponentially in every aspect of your life.
- Brush up on your flirting skills. If you want to find a boyfriend, you’re going to have to do some flirting at some point, and likely lots of it. It may have been a while since you actually had to show romantic interest in a guy, but you’ll have to actually remember how to show someone you like them when you do so you stand a chance of having an actual relationship with him (or at least going on a date). No need to go too heavy-handed with it, of course – you’ll need to strike a balance.
- Make an effort to connect. We’re so used to scrolling dating apps endlessly and chatting with people via social media that many of us have forgotten out to actually interact and connect with people face-to-face. That’s not to say that you can’t find a boyfriend online but that you have to make a concerted effort to forge relationships with people you meet in person. You never know what might happen if you embrace the old school a bit.
- Be open to someone out of the ordinary. One thing that will help you find a boyfriend is being open to someone who might not check all your boxes but who’s interesting, interested in you, and who takes you by surprise. Obviously what you’ve imagined in your head for years hasn’t happened yet, so maybe it’s time to change things up a bit and widen the scope a bit, don’t you think?
- Create a life you love. At the end of the day, the best way to find a guy is by not looking for one. Yes, you have to put effort into finding love, but more importantly, you need to be a whole person with a fulfilling life even without a romantic relationship. You’d be surprised how much that draws men to you.