How To Get A Guy to Leave His Girlfriend For You

The good news is that getting a guy to leave his girlfriend for you is totally possible. I know because I’ve successfully done it. What you don’t want to hear is that you’re not going to do it, or at least I hope not after reading this. Here are 9 reasons why being a homewrecker is a road better left untraveled.

  1. It seriously diminishes your self-worth. You have to start thinking more highly of yourself. Start telling yourself positive affirmations about your value as a woman. You are a 10. You’re the total package. You have a lot to offer. You’re desirable to men. In fact, you’re so wanted that you don’t have to settle for a guy who already picked someone else. You’re good enough to be someone’s first and only choice.
  2. It’s not cool to take from other women. You should want to be every woman’s woman. Do unto others as you would want done to you. Respect the woman that is currently with the dude you’re eyeballing enough to hope her relationship is going well and continues to grow. Be happy for your sister in womanhood. Cheer on her success and put forth your best effort to receive good karma so you can also be in your relationship winning season soon…with a different guy.
  3. They say how you get them is how you lose them. Yeah, this is actually true (see intro paragraph where I previously mentioned my first-hand experience). Guys who are willing to get snatched from one woman are not anomalies. They are typically repeat offenders. The “grass is greener” thinkers. The “always chasing the next best thing” doers. You may have gotten his attention now, but as soon as a new shiny toy or piece of candy comes along and sparkles in his eye, he’ll be on to the next one.
  4. He could be a narcissist. This type of behavior is part of their routine. Love-bomb, gaslight, devalue, discard. They typically move right on to the next victim but even more likely they’ve got one lined up and ready. So you might be over here thinking you’re thebomb dot com for being able to win over a taken guy when it’s all part of a toxic pattern he was already in and you made yourself available to keep the cycle moving right along smoothly.
  5. It’s just not cool. You do know that taking what’s not yours is stealing, right? I mean, I’m not trying to be judgmental. I get it, I really do. But you’ve got to find a way to get past these short-term desires and think about the person you’re striving to be in the long run. What are the values you want to stand for and what example and legacy do you want to leave for the next generation? Don’t you want a love story for the ages? A tale of Swiper-no-swiping doesn’t quite give off the romantic feels to pass down generations.
  6. There are eligible bachelors out there. And by eligible, I mean more than just successful and attractive. I also mean available. I know it seems like all the good guys are taken but there’s no possible way you’ve met every guy on the planet and you just have to have faith that there’s someone out there for you. Work on yourself, meditate, and put good energy out in the universe and it will return good things to you.
  7. It’s messy and can bring unwanted drama to your life. I mean, unless the woman he was with wanted to get rid of him and you did her a favor, she’s obviously going to be pissed at you. If she’s not then you should be asking yourself why she was willing to let him go so easily. But anyway, a bitter vengeful ex isn’t something you want to invite to your doorstep. Women can get pretty protective over what’s theirs and the backlash can range anywhere from angry glares across the room to full-on stalking and threats of violence. All things that could easily be avoided by not being a boyfriend-thief.
  8. It could forever be awkward. Let’s say this works for you and keeps going. Like, you’re going to the altar with this man. Good for you, but do you want that in the back of your head for the rest of your life? Every time someone asks how you met or got together, it will be the elephant in the room. There may be mutual friends you’ll have to avoid or people who know and don’t agree whose disapproval you permanently have to deal with. What if he has children already with the person you took him from? Then you also can never get her out of your life either. It’s not what’s up, period.
  9. You should love yourself first always. Love yourself enough to not even be plotting and scheming about how to “get your guy.” Let a guy come to you. Let him declare his interest in you and do the pursuing. Just be you and take care of your business and let your perfect relationship fall into place naturally. Taking someone away from another woman is too forced.
I’m Cara, not to be confused with Carrie, although you could say I’m a Millennial Bradshaw of sorts. Pop culture connoisseur. Lover of all things creative and passionate about health and personal well-being. Follow me on IG @cara_vale_writer