How To Get Your Head Out Of Your Ass & Be A Decent Person

Sometimes we give people the wrong impression of ourselves without even knowing it. You might consider yourself to be friendly and outgoing, but you could actually be coming across as a douchebag. So how do you change others’ perception of you? Well, get your head out of your ass and just be nice. It’s easy to do, but in case there’s any confusion, here are some tips.

  1. Don’t judge people based on material possessions. Some of us might not notice when we’re doing it, but we sometimes make irrelevant judgments about a person on what kind things they buy. A person’s character has nothing to do with where they shop, the brand of clothes they wear, or how much money is in their wallet, so knock it off.
  2. Bite your tongue when you want to brag. There’s a fine line between being excited for something that happened to you and bragging about it endlessly. If you feel like what you’re doing is really coming from a bad place, then don’t do it. It’s just going to alienate others.
  3. Give only genuine compliments. There are many passive aggressive moves people are guilty of, and giving backhanded compliments is one of them. Do more good than harm and only say what you really mean. It makes people’s day by giving genuine compliments, and you’ll end up feeling happier, too.
  4. Be willing to compromise. Sometimes you may not be into the things other people are, but compromising is better than making others feel like everything is so beneath you. Instead of trying to get out of things, suck it up! When your friends decide to do something you’re not into, do it anyway once in a while to return the favor of them sometimes trying new things with you.
  5. Lose the need to always be right. Sometimes correcting someone is necessary. But if you’re the type to never let up because you always want to “win”, then it’s time for a change. Not everything needs to be a competition.
  6. Accept that you might need to do things that are “not in your job description.” Many people have this gripe in the workplace, but if you actually say this to the wrong person, it could really hurt you. There is always someone out there that will do something you won’t do. So really debate on throwing this saying around or you could come off as a snob who just doesn’t want to be a team player.
  7. Show an interest in other people. People could feel like you find them unimportant if you don’t show enough interest in them. Simply taking the time to ask them questions so you’re not always talking about yourself is a good way to make people feel better and like you care.
  8. Focus more on what you have in common with others. Sometimes changing your perspective is all you need. People tend to focus too much on what they don’t have in common with others rather than what they do. When you do this you treat people better because you relate to them more.
Nicole Weaver is a staff writer for YourTango and regularly contributes to Hollywood, The Bolde, and Proud2BMe. She is a lover of all things entertainment meaning she spends most of her nights in New York binge watching television shows. Follow her on Twitter at @nikkibernice.