How To Keep The Spark Alive In A Long-Distance Relationship

In my opinion, the honeymoon phase should never end if you’re with the right person! However, it’s not as easy as it sounds to keep the spark alive, especially when you’re rarely in the same room together – or even the same country! This could make it more exciting when you do see each other, of course, or it can actually have a negative impact on your relationship. Here’s how you can keep the spark and the romance alive in a long-distance relationship!

  1. Make the most of video calls. Is it possible to keep the spark in your relationship even when you’re not physically next to each other? Hell yes! If you’re both up for it, video calls are a great way to feel closer to each other and share little snippets of your day. You can make it extra special by having virtual dinner dates and opening a bottle of wine while you’re at it!
  2. Talk to each other every day. For some couples, texting or calling each other every day isn’t necessary if they’re seeing enough of one another regularly, but in a long-distance relationship, it’s important to have regular communication. Consider setting up a time each day that you can have a phone call or FaceTime session. This gives you both something to look forward to. Nothing keeps the spark going in a relationship like anticipation to speak to your partner. Remember not to overdo it though. Speaking every minute of the day is unhealthy and it doesn’t allow time for them to miss you.
  3. Plan, plan, plan. Lack of planning is one of the main reasons for long-distance relationships not working out. Your partner needs to know that they can rely on you, therefore, the last thing they need is maybes. This works better if you plan together rather than letting one of you do all the work. Are they traveling to you or are you traveling to them for the weekend? Decide together! Doing this also leads to fewer arguments, as it shows you’re both putting in the same amount of effort.
  4. Be spontaneous at times. It’s not easy being spontaneous in a long-distance relationship if you live thousands of miles away from each other. However, it can still work depending on the circumstances. If you know they’re not working and they have no plans for a weekend, why not surprise them by booking a hotel room or a table at their favorite restaurant? This will definitely keep the spark going strong in your relationship!
  5. Make the most of the time you see each other in person. Many couples fail to make the most of their time together and that can lead to boredom in the relationship. If you only see each other for a short time then you should be spending that time catching up, eating meals together, and going outside to explore instead of spending most of your time binge-watching a Netflix series. Obviously, watching a show or movie together is fun, but you don’t want to spend ALL of your time doing that.
  6. Stop yourself from arguing by text. Nothing good ever comes out of this. It’s understandable that you might feel stressed or irritated by the fact that you can’t see your partner as much as you’d like to, but arguing is just wasting valuable talking time. Not to mention things can often be misinterpreted through messages, and the last thing you want to do is upset your partner when you can’t even make up afterward. If you really need to discuss something then call them or FaceTime instead.
  7. Build excitement for when you see one another. Being in a LDR is tough when it feels like you’ve been waiting forever just to be able to see and hug them again, but that moment when you do see them makes it all feel worth it. You can keep the spark alive by regularly telling your partner how excited you are to see them and making plans in advance for when you do get some time together. You can even start a countdown in the days leading up to it!
  8. Save some things to talk about. It’s tempting to tell your partner every little detail of your day, but consider holding some stuff back to tell them in person. The last thing you want is to quickly run out of things to share with one another because you’ve said it all in a message. Keep the spark alive by sharing some of your good news face to face.
  9. Make future plans with each other. We all need things to look forward to, especially if you’re in a long-distance relationship. In fact, during the really tough days when you’re tired of the miles between you, it can help to know that you’ve made plans for the future. Remember that you won’t always be in a long-distance relationship, one day you’ll be able to see each other as often as you like.
Coralle is a freelance writer and blogger with a special interest in Mental Health & wellness, Women's health, and relationships.

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