How To Kiss A Guy For The First Time And Make It Totally Unforgettable

Maybe you’ve kissed a thousand guys before — I don’t know your life! However, every guy is different and every first kiss is different too. If you want to set the scene perfectly the first time you lock lips with someone, that takes effort and a bit of knowledge. Here are a few tips to help you kiss a guy for the first time in a way that’s memorable and that he’ll want to repeat.

  1. Make sure you’re prepared. While you shouldn’t be preparing every single aspect of a kiss down to the T as it takes away the spontaneity and can make the whole thing cold and robotic, you do need to take a few steps to ensure you have the best chance of a pleasurable experience. Make sure you don’t plan your first kiss for when you’re in public or are likely to be interrupted. Also, please, for the love of God, don’t do it when you’ve just eaten a ton of garlic bread or just got home from the gym and are super sweaty. Use your common sense – you know exactly what I mean.
  2. Make physical contact. Don’t just walk right up to the guy and lay one on him. Start out by making contact between your bodies. Maybe it happens after a hug or you simply want to pull him a little closer to you and sorta build the tension a bit before you kiss the guy. Take your time getting closer and don’t rush the moment. The longer you sorta let things build, the hotter it’ll be when you do actually lock lips.
  3. Place your lips on his. When you’re ready, move your head forward and put your lips on his. A few small pecks at first could be a good way to test the water before you start going down the French kiss route, and it’s another way to be flirty and teasy that will likely turn him on.
  4. Part your lips so he knows he can use some tongue. Unless you’re trying to just have a friendly, chill kiss (in which case you wouldn’t need this article), you need to get some tongue action involved. The best way to move things to this stage when you kiss the guy for the first time is by opening your lips a bit so he kinda gets the hint that you want his tongue in your mouth, for lack of a better, less gross-sounding expression.
  5. Let him take the lead sometimes. While most guys do find it totally sexy for women to take control in this department, this isn’t just his first kiss with you, it’s your first kiss with the guy. That means you should get to enjoy it a bit as well, and letting him take the lead has the added bonus of showing you what kind of kisser he is (and possibly what kind of lover).
  6. Let yourself get lost in the moment. I know you’re reading all these tips so that you have the perfect smooch with this dude, and that’s fine, but it’s also important that when you are making out with him, you actually let yourself get into the experience. If this is someone with whom you have amazing chemistry, why not bask in that? It doesn’t come around every day!
  7. Go slow and steady – don’t rush. In the same vein, it’s important not to use this experience as a rush job and let it flow naturally. If the kiss picks up pace and passion, sure, go with it, but don’t be so in a hurry to get it over with that you cut it short or ruin the moment.
  8. Remember to have fun. If you end up bashing teeth at one point or you bite his lip a little too hard or something, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourselves. After all, kissing is supposed to be fun and romantic. Keeping a sense of humor will make the experience way more memorable and make the two of you even more comfortable with each other, which is great for intimacy.
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