How To Know When A Fling Is Over: Signs Your Casual Relationship Has Run Its Course


Casual relationships aren’t for everyone, but if you’re someone who wants to get laid regularly by someone you find attractive and can have a good time with while avoiding all the responsibilities and drama of a real relationship, they might work for you. That being said, casual relationships aren’t meant to last forever, and it’s important you recognize the signs your fling is over so neither of you outstays your welcome with the other.

  1. The sex is getting stale. It goes without saying that your fling is over when the sex is no longer fun. After all, it was the crux of your connection with one another, so when that goes, what do you have left? If the sex used to be super hot and you couldn’t keep your hands off one another but now you’d actually rather order pizza and watch Netflix than hop into bed together, it’s one of the biggest signs it’s time to call it quits.
  2. You’re no longer having fun. The whole point of a fling is to have no strings attached fun. There’s no heaviness to the situation, just an opportunity to enjoy yourselves together for as long as it’s right. When hanging out feels more like a chore than it does something you actually look forward to, consider that one of those big signs that it’s over.
  3. One of you is interested in someone else. I don’t even think this needs to be said, but your fling is over the minute one of you catches actual feelings for someone else. If you or they want to give a real relationship a go with someone else, then the connection between you needs to end immediately. You can’t invest your energy in someone else if you’re still entangled with someone else.
  4. You barely see each other anymore. Yes, I know that a casual relationship is casual and that you’re not meant to be together 24/7, but if you’re not getting together at least once a week or so, then what’s the point? Another of the glaringly obvious signs that your fling is over is when you go weeks without getting in touch or making plans to see each other. It’s pretty clear things have fizzled out, so why try and keep them going?
  5. It’s starting to take up too much of your time and energy. This whole arrangement was meant to be very low-maintenance and low effort, not something that sucks up all your time and energy and makes you feel drained. When you start to feel overwhelmed and/or exhausted by your connection, it’s time to say goodbye.
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill