How To Know When A Guy Is Losing Interest

Things were hot and heavy between you and this guy, but now they seem to be fizzling out… Or are you just being paranoid? If these 12 things have been happening with that special someone, sorry to tell you, but he’s probably losing interest.

  1. He’s losing his words. He used to want to talk to you every day, even if it was just a quick WhatsApp message, but now he can go for days without saying anything at all. When you do spend time together, he wants to undress you instead of having an actual conversation. That doesn’t bode well.
  2. He’s doing a convo fade-out. Is he full of interesting conversation like he used to be, or does it seem like he doesn’t have much to say? If he’s happy to forego the follow-up question to let your chat die out, it’s a bad sign.
  3. He’s swamped by his life. Is he suddenly super busy all the time when he used to have literally nothing to do? Unless he’s had some major promotion or he’s completely changed his career, a sudden and dramatic change in his life that pushes you a bit out of it is a red flag. He’s prioritizing other things over you.
  4. He’s not keeping you in the loop. If he used to keep you updated on the latest happenings in his life but now you have to read about it by checking out social media, then it’s clear he’s not even thinking about you when he has to make big decisions or something happens to him. You’re the last to know.
  5. He’s never fully with you when he’s with you When you talk to him about your day or something that happened, he’s quick to brush you off or he just mumbles his way through the conversation like he’s not really interested or has better things to do. Ugh.
  6. He’s got dating amnesia. You guys were supposed to meet for dinner, but you had to check in with him to make sure he was still coming and then he claimed to have totally forgotten about it. When it happens once, fine. When it’s a repeat occurrence? Yikes. Is there any bigger sign that this guy is not interested?
  7. He’s always out with his friends. And guess what? He never invites you to those outings. Whether he used to or not is not really the point. The point is that you’re feeling like he’s closing doors in your face.
  8. He’s acting weird. If he becomes fidgety or anxious when you mention that you’d love for him to meet your best friends or when you ask him about hanging out on the weekend, his body language is trying to tell you that he’s actually freaked out about progressing with the relationship.
  9. He’s vanilla in bed. FYI, there’s nothing wrong with loving vanilla sex, but if he used to be much more interested in doing new things when you guys would hook up whereas now he’s going through the motions, it’s clear that he’s losing his spark.
  10. He’s a walking temper tantrum. Where’d the nice guy go? If it seems like he’s always irritable or impatient with you, losing his s**t at the most unexpected times, it could be that he’s over whatever you had with him and he’s trying to check out. Or, he’s hoping you’ll get fed up with his moody behavior and walk away. You know what? You should do yourself a favor and grant him his wish. He’s not worth it.
  11. He’s all over social media. He’s suddenly taking a greater interest in social media? Hmmm. You can tell by how he’s online so often and chatting to tons of other people. Is he already trying to find someone else to replace you? This is possible, especially if he’s not really talking to you online or he doesn’t want to connect with you on social media.
  12. He’s got excuses for everything. When you send him a friend invite on Facebook, he ignores you and then says he’s just not into social media (lie). Then, when you suggest going on a weeknight date instead of doing your usual weekend stuff, he’ll say he’s busy (lie). He always throws giant rocks in your path so it’s like you can’t move onto brighter, better things. Here’s the thing: he’s actually the rock that’s in your path, blocking you. Time to step over him and walk away!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.